I’m finding life harder by the day and it’s now starting to affect my work, sleep patterns and my drive in general. I split from my fiancé in June last year following me having outbursts of uncontrollable emotion, I was doing more harm than good. I’m now starting to notice that I’m struggling to talk to people, I get anxious just thinking about it and then when I do start talking I feel like everyone in the room is judging me and then… I freeze. Colleagues are starting to notice and it’s putting me in a really difficult situation. I’ve previously done CBT and Counselling and found these helped but not to the point where the anxiety goes away. Just feel like this is it and there is no moving forward.
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Alot of people are having anxiety. Can you journal, meditate, exercise or listen to music and find some relief? Hope it eases soon. Be kind to yourself, I need to remember to do that too. I suffer and work at fighting it all day myself.
May I suggest that you have too much time on your hands, me too. The number one "cure" for filling that time is to help others as it solves 2 problems. It keeps you busy and makes you feel good about yourself, maybe 3 in your case, you may meet a nice girl. I myself help support a home in SE Asia where they look after abandomed babies and in the same town an old people's home. With the ecomonic climate such as it is, my support is very important.
You need to find an organisation, a clean one, where funds are not hoovered up by middlemen and that will take time and effort. Or better still do something in your local area, where seeing the results of your efforts will give you a real lift.
Many years ago I got involved in helping a club for underprevialaged kids, I am an engineer and began teaching them some skills. We also did a "make a wish foundation event and that was a great day. Met lots of like minded friends.
There are plenty of people who need help, old people on their own are really struggling now after two years of this mess. You have to research to find how you can be of help...Bonne chance son.
It sounds like what you might really be dealing with is Social Anxiety Disorder which is maladaptive thinking and behavior that you adapted at sometime in your life for self-protection. You might benefit from working with a therapist who specializes in treating social anxiety disorder and if there isn't one near you, there are online resources available. I used a program from the socialanxietyinstitute.org although I would have preferred an in person program. Knowing what kind of anxiety you are actually dealing with can accelerate and make your healing and recovery easier.
Anxiety is difficult to deal with. Even if I'm on medications, I still have difficult days. The feelings of others judging me is a big one for me. I had to get my sister to tell me that they're not judging me, that instead I need to stay focused on what I need to do. Maybe you have friends or family to talk to or even your doctor? For me, stress adds a lot to it. If you can find a way to relieve stress it might help. Like for me, I say prayers and write in a journal. They both help me to get everything out. I have bad outbursts too when I get upset or scared. I dont mean to do it, but sometimes it just comes out. That I'm still working on. I just want you to know you're not alone. I've lost people I love because of this. I'm still a work in progress even if I've been fighting this over 20 years. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Sending big hugs with hope and encouragement.
I feel for you, and have been through hard times..By genetics or nature nurture we develop a reactionary personality..
Our emotions are not stable we ride the crest of the wave or fall into the trough of the wave, when we find calm our emotions stabilise and our reactions slow down and we can sail calmer seas..
Spend time alone walking in nature to help slow the mind👍.. this works..
Many things I had to relearn..
Life owes me nothing, but I owe life gratitude for my experience..
Practise non-reaction by viewing happenings as just life events🙏..
I had to put down my ego, and learn I was not as important as I thought...
And most of all accept what life presented me, and that things would always work out ( maybe not always the way I wanted)...and pray religious or not when you pray for help I believe the universe or your God will provide, share your problems and ask for help...🙏🙏
what really helped me (terrible hypochondria and constant panic attacks) was a combination of Paroxetine (which took 1 month to really start working) AND a CBT app. The Paroxetine helped clear my mind enough to use the CBT techniques.
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