I’m a mom with anxiety

Hi everyone. Today has been a really challenging day in my home and I joined this space because I don’t have anyone to talk to who will understand what I’m feeling/dealing with.

I’m a mom of two young school aged kids. This year has been tough for so many parents, my hubby and I are no different. But on top of the pandemic and changes to schooling, hubby and I both started new, very challenging jobs during the pandemic. We have help at home but the lion’s share of managing our household (and managing the support we have at home) is on me.

I have mild adhd and general anxiety and I can’t seem to manage anything well. I’ve always struggled with time management but found lots of good work arounds/ways to cope. But things have hit a fever pitch at home. My job is exhausting (but I like it), my husband is consumed by his work and either doesn’t know how or doesn’t want to help in a more meaningful way.

Our mornings are really hectic because I haven’t put the time into structuring them and hubby doesn’t participate unless guided. This morning, the level of chaos could almost be called comical if the result wasn’t so terrible. Our nanny has quit.

I feel like a failed mom. How do others do the juggling? I just don’t get it.

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Hello

I am a Mum but my Children are all grown up now but I have had anxiety years and I brought them up coping with anxiety to

Sounds like you have so much going of at the moment and all these things are going round and round till you have no clue what to do

I would sit and list your main issues in order and deal with just one at a time , tick that of the list and then move on to the next

You say your Husband does not seem to realise what you are going through , try and get him to sit and listen to you and if that does not work put that in writing and give it to him , he will at least read it and maybe see that you need his help

Also you may benefit from some medication to help you feel calmer you could talk with your Doctor about this

We all struggle and life can seem unmanageable but slowly you will get back on track x

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Thank you 😊.

[The_Lord_is_with_Us]

I'll send you some tips to get out from underneath anxiety. Things I wish I had known before I came down with SEVERE Generalized Anxiety Disorder.

[lovetodance2018]

Thank you for reaching out and sharing. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate and as moms we are so hard on ourselves. Too often we think we have do everything and it is has to be done right which is so unrealistic. No one can do it all. I am sorry your nanny quit. It was good you had help and I will be praying you find a new nanny quickly. In the meantime, maybe you can make a list of the things that are stressing you. I know for me writing all the things that have to be done down is important. Then I prioritize them because not all of them can be done all at once, and some may have two wait a day or more. I used to be a perfectionist but overtime I have learned nothing can be perfect and definitely not all the time. So I do my best and am happy with that. Some things may just have to wait to get done. Sharing with your husband too on how you can manage the things on the list together, and what he thinks are necessary to be done right away, and how to get to the others things later on together. Here is an article (bit.ly/2SD4aTm) you might find helpful. This forum is a wonderful a place to share, encourage and support. We are here for you. You will be in my prayers. Hugs and God Bless

[Cicinoodle]

Your children will end up with anxiety and depression. You should take turns with your husband handling the morning routine or make a schedule for everyone to pitch in and what their duty is, with a reward at the end of the week. Preparation the night before can help.. (clothes laid out, breakfast prep,etc.

Maybe getting up earlier would help, or take a break from your job and realize what is most important right now ......your children

[lovetodance2018]

How are you doing? I have been praying for you. Hugs