Isolate

[TAH2015]

Is it isolation if you want to stay away from toxic family over the holidays? Then wen you think about staying away you get sad? I’m not sure which one is better for my mental health.

[Dolphin14]

That's a tough one. If you are going to feel sad and lonely I feel like you want to take part but don't want to deal with all the garbage that goes with it.

How about a shorter visit? You just have to know going in that it's going to disturb you. So, you have to ask yourself how much exposure you want and how long will it take you to " rebalance" after the visit.

Personally I have skipped many dysfunctional family gatherings. But, I never felt sad about it. I preferred being alone then dealing with my broken feeling after the event.

Follow your gut instinct. I hope you have a great holiday.

[SuZQ154]

That is a hard choice. Sometimes it feels easier to stay away. Sometimes, it is better to embrace the holiday and our families. Recently, I saw a napkin that read, "Thanksgiving, bringing out the best in family dysfunction since 1863." It made me laugh and I bought a pack It helped me to realize I was not alone!

You are not alone, either! We are here for you. Praying for you to find an answer to your dilemma and not to be afraid. Blessings to you!