Feel like I’m gonna die young:(

[AnxiousGirl333]

Hey guys so since like March I’ve felt like I’m gonna die this year and I’m only 16 btw so it scares me and nobody else knows about this because I just know people are gonna say “It’s all in your head.” I’m scared and I’m praying about it but the fear is just lingering I wanna live a long life I have no medical conditions or anything like that I’m perfectly fine I’m just parinoid someone please help

[o2G2o]

I actually experienced that around your age. I found it impossible to envision myself as an old person - so impossible that I just assumed I'd die before that could happen. Do you ever wonder if you're invisible to others sometimes? Just curious, I felt that way around the same time as the dying young thing.

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Hey AnxiousGirl,

I used to feel this way. I was always so certain something horrible was going to happen or that a bump I could feel in my body was absolutely for sure cancer. That was all when I was like 15-18 years-old. Even when I was 10 and my mom taught me how to make a kid friendly way to make scrambled eggs, I feared high cholesterol.....at ten years-old. What I want to impress here is....I'm now closing in on 36. I still have days where I wonder when it's coming...if it's coming. Whatever it might be. Maybe talk to your parents, a friend, a counselor, a family member you feel you can trust, or anyone about it and see why you feel paranoid about death. Here's another sort of fact...people don't like talking about death. Life insurance, wills, burials/cremation...it's just an uncomfortable subject and it usually requires respect and some delicacy. I will say there's nothing wrong with you in terms of what you're thinking and feeling. The purest fact of life is there is a beginning and an end. Some people can live day to day without ever thinking "the end". People like you and I, well, we're a little more conscious of it. I would see if you can find a way to be comfortable with it because in all odds, if all goes as planned, you will live a full, great life! No medical conditions and all...it is all in our heads, but it's just what they dub "overthought". You sound like a thinker and it's generally a great thing except when it's impacting life. I don't want to get even wordier, but I want to end saying you aren't alone in this fear, this thinking, and it is normal. Whether it's here or with someone you trust, just have a conversation about your fears and trust the reassuring words as you can. Remember to be kind to yourself during this thinking, it's certainly a lot to take on. But....there are many people here like yourself who have this fear. I trust you'll have a lot of support here. If you're an anxious person, this type of thought is common with anxiety and many of us have the same issue. Regardless of everything else I've typed, I hope you're able to relax from the thoughts, trust your health, and live life to the fullest despite the thoughts. And if you ever need pep, support, or whatever it might be...we are always here! Take care for now

[Kkimm]

Hi so sorry to hear this, especially as you are so young. There are lots of other young people feeling the same. I think you should go and see your doc as some therapy or medication may help you.

I am not young but got anxiety for the first time two years ago but after antidepressants am great now. They are not a quick easy fix though, you generally feel worse before you feel better and can take a few months to really work.

Lifestyle is important too, try not to be afraid of your symptoms just ignore them. Take on new challenges each day and get plenty of relaxation and sleep. Eating healthily, little and often is good.

Feel free to message me anytime

I also think it would help you to tell your family as they will be very important for support particularly in the early days of taking antidepressants if you and your doctor think you need them. You may not need them yet and therapy could be a big help, particularly CBT.

Very good luck

Kim

[SxufferingSxoul]

Hiii, I’m 16 and get the same exact thing, you can’t really die if you don’t have medical conditions, since I have had the fear since I was 9, yet I am still alive now. I always thought I would die at the age of 11 but here I am, level 16 as they say 😂, and still alive Even if you had a medical condition, you won’t necessarily die from it! I have a friend who was born with bronchitis, and other lung diseases, she is still alive now, and even goes for jogs! I have been told that our fears and anxiety go away after the age of 18, or at least won’t be as severe as now. I swear to god I have the same exact issues as you, just hang in there, you won’t die. The rarity of dying from a medical condition at a young age is already quite high, let alone the rarity of dying from something that’s not a medical condition.

Hope we feel better soon and everyone else with the same problems.

[art62grammie]

Why let the fear of dying stop you from living/? You are so young. Fear is only a figment of the mind. The mind plays tricks. Why let it win? If in fear do it in fear. Which for you would be to live. We all are going to die at sometime in our life. That is the only way out of this world. We do not know when it will be our last breath. Young nor old. We live one day at a time. We look for goals and future plans. We live one day at a time. Not one of us are promised a tomorrow. We can not let fear of dying keep us a prisoner. A prisoner to the most precious gift. That gift honey, is LIFE. Live and enjoy each day. I KNOW WAY TOO WELL. Having lived with Anorexia from ages 14 until 56. I have recently recovered and daily I will. I feel for young people who have any anxiety or mental anguish. I lived all my life until just recently with all that crap. You just hang in there and do not let fear keep you from dreams. We only have one life and it is mine and yours. Make it happen. Live your dreams. Life is not easy. We will experience grief and sorrow along the way. Life is an experience and a journey for each of us. We learn and grow daily. Take your journey of life and live. Just live.

[Clarrisa]

I did see a therapist some time in my 20s to try & help sort problems out. I remember this therapist telling me that they found that how well children dealt with wars (when death from bombing could strike) depended on how calm the child’s mother remained (father likely in the theater).

Your young age of 16 is a age when you would be expected perhaps to become increasingly more independent from your parents. I am wondering if the prospect of becoming more independent from your folks is stirring up fears that you will not be successful being on your own.

I think that your reaching out like this on this forum for help demonstrates you have the wherewithal to overcoming fears that crop up as adult expectations for you may increase. If my therapist was right it helps to have had a calm parent. If you didn’t that is what (in part) therapists are for.