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[MonicaFlash12]

So the words cancer and death are stuck in my head and I’m at the point where nothing seems to matter beyond the fact I might be leaving 8 kids behind ... anxiety is always kicking in plus I’m going through all this mess and my husband is cheating on me so I got more anxiety than Norma if there even is a normal

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You have a lot going on. Wish you the best 🙂

[MonicaFlash12 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. Likewise

[backtonormal in reply to MonicaFlash12]

I'm so sorry you are battling the health issues you are as well as a cheating husband. Even though the conditions you listed can lead to cancer doesn't mean they will. However, I think high stress and anxiety over that possibility can make it so. What type of medical help are you getting? Are you seeing a therapist for the anxiety and learning steps to cope with the thoughts?

I have had cancer as well as a stroke - obviously survived them both. Early detection and treatment was key in both cases. In the meantime, I've learned that I can't dwell on the "what ifs", those can drive me crazy. Instead, I'm enjoying the precious life I have to the extent I can. Relish in my relationships, keep a journal that I include 3-5 things that I am grateful for every single day. I'll be praying for you!

[hypercat54]

Hi I would be surprised if you were feeling anything else apart from anxiety with 8 children and a cheating partner! That would overwhelm anyone so go easier with yourself. Do you have any reason to think you might have cancer apart from your health anxiety? Have you been checked out for it? The sad fact is many do suffer from it but having said there are far more people living with it than dying of it these days.

If this is your health anxiety then why worry just about cancer? You can be knocked down by a bus tomorrow and killed but you probably won't be, or you could fall into water and drown etc. It's a waste of time and energy to think about what might happen as the truth is no one knows the future and we can't control it anyway. All we can do is embrace life whilst we are here and try and live for today instead of worrying about what might or might not happen in the future. In other words don't waste your days in fretting over the future.

Are you getting any medical help at the moment? x

[MonicaFlash12 in reply to hypercat54]

I had a hysterectomy done 3 years ago due to hyperplasia which would eventually cause cancer , I’ve been suffering from GERD for a long time and I have fatty liver disease due to meds that I need to take and I suffer from endometriosis which makes my entire left side of the body hurt I can go on with other illnesses I have so some of these can lead to cancer. And this is in a range of a 5 years float of illnesses. So I’m pretty freaked out and worried. Like what’s next , so my anxiety is horrible