Today I have received a letter from my wife's solicitor she wants to sale the house. And this bad news for the kids.

[mazza10]

I just can't take it anymore.

[Hidden]

Hi

Oh dear

Now not sure but is the house in joint names on the mortgage ?

If it was just in yours I don't think you can be pushed into selling the house if it was in joint that could be a different matter !

Have you got a solicitor ?

If you have I would make an appointment & find out where you stand with all this & if you haven't you need to get one !

This will have come as a shock & I know when going through a divorce with every thing that starts coming through the post it is so painful as you can see things slowly changing that you may have been hoping to keep hold of

Try & I know it is not easy , but at the moment take each day at a time , you will get through this & keep posting , people will try & give you the best support they can

Love

whywhy

xxx

[mazza10 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks whywhy I am trying to take it easy but itis hard for me to see my kids going through this difficult time. I just can't continue without my family.

[bonnie1959]

Hi mazza. Do the children live with you at the house ? If so i believe you do not have to agree. See a solicitor. A court will not agree to a house being sold if children are living in it and it there home. Dont agree with wife. See solicitor. If you cant go out ring em and explain on phone.

Take care

Bonnie

Xx

[mazza10 in reply to bonnie1959]

Thanks bonnie1959 two of our kids with me and the other two with their mum

[anne1964]

Hi mazza

I hope you have someone supporting you through this awful time..... have you a freind or family member??

I think as hard as this all is, you need to see a solicitor!! You will get through this , we all have..

sending love and hugs Ker xx

[mazza10 in reply to anne1964]

Thanks anne1964 I live with my two sons 16/17 and other two with their mum. The only family I have my wife / kids this is why I can't take this anymore.

[anne1964 in reply to mazza10]

Its a hard time, but your sons need you and that will help pull you through!! Have you any friend to help you??

I know it seems like it wont get better and you have a mountain to climb, but break it down into little sections.............

Go and see you gp for help and support, be it medication or counselling to help you through... then you need to see solicitor to help with where you stand!!

Do you work??

Keep blogging on here, we will all help you!!

Ker xxx

[anne1964 in reply to anne1964]

I went to Relate for counselling on my own to help come to terms with the end of relationship and it really helped and you can see them quite quickly... can you do this?? Its great support!! xx

[mazza10 in reply to anne1964]

I just can't think straight she is putting me under pressure and I haven't been to work since 16th of December.

[shadow45]

mazza.... Of course you will be with your kids. You have parental rights and the courts will back you up on this point... Life will be different no doubt. Your wife has put her plan into place and now you must have a plan as well. I know how it feels to be (dumped). all the anger is impossible to handle... Best thing is to keep away from the wife for awhile Give her the space... If your not going to do that her lawyers will get involved and you don't want that ...Stay strong... post often...steve

[Mysteryreader]

although it was a lot of years ago my dad tried to sell the house my mum and my sister and I were living in and she had a stop put on it so that he couldn't do it. He was not allowed to sell it without her agreement. Eventually we found another home and the family home was sold, You need to go and see a solicitor or CRB and findout what your rights are. Who is living in the house at the moment and why does she want to sell? I would suggest also that you go to your doctors and ask how they could help with your anxiety.

MR

[Rak0204]

Hello Mazza10,

I empathise with you and understand your difficult period of life. But having supportive people friends and professional are very vital for your wellbeing and your children too at this point. Along with you they too are going through this breakup. It is great that you took the step to talk about it on this page. Which show the courage's steps you took to make sense of the situation and the effort of resolution. I know all of this can't be easy as it creates anxiety and painful headaches and depression. We are all human and we all go through different level of pain and hurt during life. So allow yourself to feel what every you feel without any restriction to yourself . That will help you find the strength within you to face your wife and house issue. Remember reaching out for help is not weakness but in fact it is the strength that seeks to resolving your anxiety, your children and home to the problem. That aims to uplift you from this current situation.

Keeping a diary of your thought and anxiety helped me with my anxiety and talking to friends and profession help me get the help I needed. During heated discussion I use to go for long walks to think things through helped me to be more sure of myself and be assertive to facing the devil negative in others toward me. But you do what you feel comfortable and helps you.

[mazza10]

Thanks everyone for replying I will speak to solicitor on Monday. My kids they don't to lose the house.I offered my wife the house, kids and I told her everything from bills to the shopping I would be pay for, I said to her just stay with the kids in the house and I would go back to work and stay in my digs, and I told her just think about it.