How can i stop being so concerned about what people think of me. I feel uncomfortable looking at people and bow my head. People think weirdo

[miahall1]

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Hi & welcome

I dont think people will be thinking weirdo at all , i think your anxiety may be telling you they are thinking that because you struggle in these kinds of situations

It can be a lack of self esteem that can cause us to feel this way & we are so negative about ourselves we feel everyone else feels & thinks the same about us , but I bet they dont & if they did , I wouldnt want to be speaking to people like that any way

The more you learn to like yourself , it will become easier to be around people & accept they like you , just the way you are

Keep coming on here & talking , people will support you with how you feel & slowly things will start to get better , it takes time but you will get there

Love

whywhy

xxx

[miahall1 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you I appreciate you words. Kind regards

[Blorengia]

I've noticed that loads of people don't look at me for long as they walk towards me on a pavement or footpath, many look down at the ground. I think it's quite a natural thing to do for many people because we're taught not to stare too much and so most people don't hold someone else's gaze for very long - it's not weird at all! - especially in larger towns and cities where people don't want to make eye contact for very long with strangers.

If you live in a smaller town or village and you tend to see the same people regularly (even if you don't know them by name) and feel that you should acknowledge them in some way just try looking up at them as they approach you and give a slight nod - after a while you might manage a short smile if you feel comfortable doing so.

I'm sure they're not thinking you're weird anyway... if they notice it at all they'll probably just think you're normal, or a little bit shy maybe!

[miahall1 in reply to Blorengia]

Than you I a appreciate your words

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Hello

I used to live in a market town and one problem we had there in the past was we would not taken notice of, although family would say so so saw you in town they just blanked face you especially if you were on the other side of the road.

It eventually became embarrassing so you did not bother. Eventually after thirty years the place was full of new comers and well did not bother with you any way.

Now I live in a small village/hamlet, of less than twenty houses, most of the time they say hello, some you get a stoney stare, Our immediate neighbours are really nice and we have coffee together and go around and have dinner in each others houses. In fact you can get nothing done as we are always chatting over the fence, I would rather have it that way as even the dogs get on well. A nice old fashioned life, GREAT

[cheekipixi]

Hia,

I am the same as you, only I tend not to go out anymore, to save me getting stressed over it, I have such a low image of myself, I have no confidence in myself and it has ruined my life, I have 1 thing that I am confident and determind with and that is driving, the only thing with that is, I really want tto win in a race but this thing that people look at me etc is stopping me, This time next year, I will be in a race, I may not win but I will put that down to inexperience, maybe I will win, that wud be great. If I do it though then it will give me the confidence to tackle another confidence thing, such as putting the washing on my line in my back garden.

It is that bad with me, so I realy do know where you are coming from. I do hope it gets easier for you, I think it is a case of small steps a day at a time.

Take care xxx

[miahall1]

Thank you I appreciate your words

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Hi, Im like this to x i always assume that others are thinking the worst of me, and if i do get the chance to chat i make a idiot of myself by rushing through the conversation and fidgeting. But I've learnt from my cbt counsellor that this is due to low self esteem. Its a hard one to turn around and it takes a lot of time but if you learn to be assertive and grow in confidence you can change these things x HAlf the time these people are thinking the exact same as you, some may even have anxiety. and they are human no more or less than you. They have there place and you have yours x Stand tall and talk with confidence and these people will notice you in a good way. And by remembering that your are equal it will not bother you as much whatever they think. xxx Life is to short to worry of others its time to think of yourself xx