I hate but need social media

[Lifesearching]

I’m feeling anxious because of social media, I now need it for work because of my job, but old friends or family have found my social media. I’m trying to run a business but had to block certain fallly members or friends who are just stalking me and watching my every move. I’m a very different person from before so old connections or family are likely shocked to see my life now. But they’re just given me weird vibes and I feel bad for blocking a lot of people, like a lot! But it’s because I’ve come so far that I cannot risk anyone messing it up for me, whether it any trying to get close to me to use me or even see if they can take what’s mine. But when I go to unlock people or shows I unfollowed and I feel bad bcuz they might think we’re on bad terms. But it’s literally to protect my peace because I fought SO SO hard to get my life back to stability💔I know there are good people out there but I haven’t found my soul tribe yet. I’m well aware that some come around just to leech and I’m not having it. Some friends or family see what I post and now see me as an opportunity and I blocked them without guilt. Or if I have to keep them around I’m just like oh great now I have to be nice to them but I know they are fake☹️I guess in a sense it just makes me look like the bad guy? Since they can see if we’re following each other. It’s for this reason I can’t stand social media but I need it for work🥺

[LifeIsThePitts]

Don't apologize for thriving. Don't feel guilty for looking out for your own best interest. Don't let anyone rob you of your autonomy or self worth by giving them power where it's not earned or warranted. You are the only one living your Life.

It sounds like you've overcome some obstacles by yourself, and are in a successful endeavor with your business so take pride in your accomplishment and do not feel guilty for setting boundaries that are healthy and protective of your assets, personal and financial.

You owe no one an explanation or apology for doing this for yourself.

BTW...I despise soc media and this is the only online account I've ever had. THAT'S how much I hate social media!!🤬

[Lifesearching in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

I guess for once, after years of pleasing everyone I’m finally being completely selfish. I’ve spent so many years taking just complete shady behavior from friends. They’ve left me out of weddings, outings, ghosted me, ignored me, or straight up stalked me so I don’t know why I’m feeling so guilty. And I’m definitely not rich or famous at all, I think they’re just noticing I’m really trying to head in a positive direction, and my blocking is based in their actions towards me of ghosting or even being passive aggressive or even being super nosy about my personal life.

Thank you for just seeing and understanding where I’m coming from. It’s not from a place of ill intent🥺yes, I’ve lost so much in the past that now I’m back on my feet I’ve vowed to myself I’m not going back to rock bottom, especially if it means blocking or distancing myself from old friends or family who I know would possibly bring drama into my life🥺I’ve fought through depression, suicidal thoughts, no money, loneliness you name it!! But some are under this false impression it was handed to me and I can’t have that energy in my space😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫I’m truly a hermit deep down, so I wish I didn’t need social media but it’s hard in todays society.

I want to add that, some friends have asked personal questions they aren’t willing to answer themselves☹️or I notice they they have a lot of time to hear about my problems, but go silent when I’m finally talking about something good and that seriously gives me the creeps bcuz it makes me think they liked when I was down?

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to Lifesearching]

Your intuition is valid and there for a reason. Only you know what you've been through and if these interactions feel insincere...it probably is. You know these people well, they're not strangers to you. Be selfless, with boundaries 😉be gracious with gratitude and you will find like minded individuals. Your tribe is out there.

In the world, we attract what we put out. Opposites don't attract, in this case. Love begets Love, hate begets hate...

I suspect that misery loves company with a lot of your old relationships. They don't necessarily want to keep you down today but they probably don't have the skills or abilities to connect with your success because they can't relate.

It's not you...sadly, it's them.

Celebrate your accomplishments and don't minimize it for their sake. You know what's best for YOU🥳

[Lifesearching in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

Yes especially bcuz two of my closest friends growing up have very different paths than me! They’re a bit more free spirited and wild but I’m very reserved and grounded. Sometimes I just don’t know if their advice is for my best interest though I love them soooo much like sisters my whole life pretty much. They almost tried to get my to break up with my bf, saying it’s better to date around 😵‍💫

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to Lifesearching]

You do you... it's not uncommon to outgrow friendships... it's nothing to be ashamed of because meeting your needs is crucial for growth. Life is flexible even though those around us may not be 😉

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to Lifesearching]

youtu.be/d4z5C8G32AY?si=Lgs...(Not working as expected?)

This is Mel Robbins "Let Them"theory...you will LOVE this. It's right where you are now and I guarantee it will liberate you from any guilt you're feeling about taking control of your own business and life. It's one of my favorite finds this year!

[Lifesearching in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

🙏🏽💙💙💙

[Adlon57]

Thats the power of commercialism, AI etc, they are running [or ruining life] individuality is being blocked out by 'them', don't worry about anything that you try to say online, this is where social, human contact, face to face meeting is always best for ironing out any glitches 'uttered' or might be misunderstood online, don't become an online 'zombie', reality is always best👌

[RamblingSoul]

Your life is a book with a lot of chapters. Some of the characters stay throughout your personal book and others are just in a few chapters. So keep making your chapters, adding and deleting people and situations to suit you. Because it is your book in the end.