This is a post about how repression of grief can rise to surface decades later.
As I was waiting in my Optometrist's office after an eye exam for new glasses, a frail, old, woman entered in a wheelchair. She looked at me and smiled and for a few moments... I thought I saw my mother, because her eyes and smile looked just like hers. Instantly, my eyes hurt and filled with tears. I continued to stare at her until I realized she was not, in fact, my mother. I certainly did not intend to be rude or embarrass her. I had suddenly recognized the fact, how much I miss my sweet, kind, and good, mother who had passed away 25 years ago.