Saying goodbye

[sad_watermelon]

Before moving for university, I hoped I could say goodbye to my ex. We are friends and this is what friends do, right? We haven't seen eachother for a month, he's working all the time and I am also busy trying to spend more time with my family. I guess I won't be able to say goodbye and this kills me. The last time we saw eachother I hurt my head because of him and I was very mad. I don't want this to be last thing we did. I don't want this to be the goodbye.

[sad_watermelon]

Update: I texted him and asked him to have in mind that I would like to see him one day when both of us can to say goodbye. He replied two hours later with "I understand". I don't know how to take it. Is it yes or no?

[CLB1125 in reply to sad_watermelon]

don’t be surprised if you never get an answer from him. If he doesn’t you will know breaking up was the right decision.

[b1b1b1]

You are facing a difficult and sad time. Leaving home to go far away makes one sad. It is also likely that you will be homesick for a month or two at the university. Try to remember, though that it is not permanent. You will be coming home again. You probably will have trouble believing this, but after University, when you do come home you will be homesick for, and miss the uni location and your friends there.

In the meantime try to remind yourself that you will make new friends, and very possibly a new boyfriend there. After a month or two you will find your footing and know your way around and begin to have friends and activities and (hopefully) interesting classes.

As to your friend saying "I understand," you will just have to wait for him to make the next move and see what happens. It is not clear what he means and uncertainty can be a very hard thing to deal with.