heartbroken

[frailstateofmind44]

I’ve been seeing someone for 3 months and things finally just ended tonight and I’m sitting here with the realization that it’s over and it’s hurting me so bad. I’m aware it wasn’t for long and I say 'finally' bc I’ve known for a while it wasn’t working out but actually coming to terms with a break up of someone you had real feelings for fcking sucks and I’m genuinely so hurt. he didn’t even have the decency to say it to my face as if we haven’t spent the entire summer talking and hanging out until now. he’s literally incapable of showing empathy I just cannot wrap my brain around that. I feel so crushed at the moment idk what to do. we made so many memories over these last 3 months and I don’t know how to not think about them or think about him. the worst part is we live in a really small town about 2 blocks away from eachother and we even work for the same hospital like I’m not in an environment where I won’t be reminded of him and idk how to cope with that. I’ve known this relationship wasn’t gonna last for about a month now bc there were so many signs and literally nothing felt right but I’m so depressed that I was willing to hold on as long as I could bc I’m now scared to be alone. I saw this coming and honestly prepared myself for it a little but it being officially over now is about to send me spiraling. I really liked this person so much and to really feel that it wasn’t mutual is such a blow idk how else to explain it. it’s going to take me so long to heal from this on top of struggling so bad with my depression I have no idea what to do

[Cb1963]

Any break up is a traumatic experience if that's the right word to use, sadly you'll have many emotions flying around, upset, angry, lost, or lonely and trying to understand why things didn't work out is a big crossword without the clues, unfortunately you'll be trying to work this out and I'm afraid there's not always the answer your looking for.Obviously there's other issues that may crop up regarding work or the area you live in, try and hold yourself together, walk proud and tall , and dare I say it, put it down to one of life's mysteries, things can change and often for the better, don't dwell on this, it will only cause more emotional turmoil, I'm sure you'll find time for a guy who will treat you with more kindness, love and respect, and don't start playing love songs on your iTunes, or drink to much , take it from a wise old man, time heals and so will your heart, best of luck!!!

[jackiesj]

I know that when i meet someone i really dont trust most for the reasons you mention. i guess not to set my heart up to be down. better to have loved andlost than not to have loved? who wrote that!May is just say you deserve to be treated with human respect. face to face shows such a lack of responsibility they go from person to person without feeling what they actually did cause pain. you are worth more.it is hard because you are grieving over a loss...of time...hope etc that you wasted without a goodbye.That is not kind at all... One day as life does change...someone will see you for you. right now you are in hurt that you did nothing to deserve it...i am in a married situation as such and that bites. nothing i can do to "save" this. If i pretend and be miss molly perfect(impossible)..the day goes better for him. not me. be thankful that treating you without kindness and humanity you are not stuck forever.

[CLB1125]

a break up is a loss just like losing someone who passes away. We have to go through a grieving process. The last stage is acceptance. You will get there. Give yourself grace. I know this doesn’t help anything but be thankful you didn’t commit to this person and find out too late you weren’t compatible. I’m 41 years in and finally realizing that I really don’t know my husband at all. It’s too late to start over now. Be picky, you deserve the best!