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[Knuewme]

So I'm 40 and my husband is 29, 11 years older. When we met, he said he wanted a wife and a family and to serve God. He's far from that. He lies, I think he cheated even though he has not admitted it, and he stole money from me. He doesn't do Bible lessons anymore. His phone is always hidden. My friends and family advised against it, but I thought he was genuine. We met and married in 6 months. We are now 4 years in. I'm unhappy. He's not fun. He's always moody. We don't go out. I look a lot younger for my age, and he looks a lot older. He even has a bald spot with gray hairs. We have a son together who is two. At the moment, things are not the worst, but I feel he does the bare minimum. He always seems unhappy, and so do I. I'm wondering if I should leave the marriage. We are supposed to migrate, but I'm thinking of not going and letting the marriage fade away.

[CLB1125]

have you considered marriage counselling?

[Knuewme in reply to CLB1125]

I feel i always initiating everything. So O decided i won't

[Starrlight]

I’m sure you will discover what your best decision will be in time. Take things slowly to ensure you are really certain in the decision. Best to you.

[Sunrisetabby]

It sounds like your husband may very likely be quite depressed from your description of his moodiness, not going out, and possibly loss of faith. Do you know why he has become unhappy? Is there anyone within your church, perhaps the priest or a Deacon, that you could encourage to reach out to your husband? I don't think it is helpful to comment on his baldness and how he is starting to look older. Perhaps it may make sense to end the marriage, but especially since you have a two year old, I think it would be helpful to figure out what exactly is going on with your husband and if there is anything that you can do to help. These conversations can often be hard, especially if someone depressed, and that is why it would be helpful to try and get assistance from your faith community if possible. Make an effort to be honest with your husband, don't hide your own phone, and perhaps ending the marriage makes sense, but even if that is the case, knowing more about his situation might help prevent possible regrets in the future. Best of luck, and perhaps migrating to a new location may be helpful for all three of you.