it's difficult to define the point in which you're wrong and the other person is "right." or maybe neutrality can be respected in these moments? of course the situation depends, therefore i do not mean this in physically or outstandingly, verbally violent issues.
i mean when you have a simple question or misunderstanding and whatever joking nature or compassion you, or the other person, has just flies out the door. that while you're unable to process things clearly in the moment, and you even ask for some time to do so, they're ready to end their connection with you and trying to paint you as someone who NEEDS therapy and support groups. of course i could do with some therapy and support!!
i feel like over the past few years, i've found some capacity to be able to respectfully have conversations with others when things become dicey, especially new people in my life. taking my time to respect the fact that we come from our own experiences and therefore we have patterns of communication unbeknownst to each other. it's so unfair when people don't respect that! it's so unfair when people use your triggers and catchphrases as reason to completely neglect your efforts to be transparent and see your point of view. it's so unfair when we don't fundamentally allow one another to apologize to each other and feel seen in the ways we felt wronged.