Separation / Divorce

[Dumbles]

Hi

I'm going through a separation right now which i think will lead to a divorce. We have been together for 12 years and married for 10. Best days of my life, We met young 26 and 28 and feelings developed very quickly and it was very full on but its what we both wanted. We have 2 beautiful daughters and not seeing them every day like i used to is hard. I feel so lost, I Wake up every morning at 4 for some reason full of anxiety and a longing for her. It just hurts so much. It was our lack of communication that made us grow apart, it could have all been avoided. We prioritised our kids over each other all the time and just never made time for each other. I really hate myself for letting it get like that. I just don't see a future, I cant bare the thought of her being with someone else in what used to be my house, bringing up my kids. I really dont want my old life back, Out every weekend clubbing and drinking hoping to meet someone, i just feel so empty and low.

[Bostock]

I feel for you, I am in a similar situation. I knew my wife for 20 years and we were married for 6. She left last month and hasn't talked to me since. The toughest part is in the middle of the night when you wake up and the gravity sets in. I think lack of communication is what leads to alot of breakups, and only after do we even think about it. Pretty sure I am heading for a divorce which just drives into a panic too. Really wish I had some words of encouragement, but just know there are people who understand what you are going through. If you have some good friends it doesn't hurt to lean on them a little bit during this. Just keep going.