anxiety / panic attacks

[Lonelylioncub]

due to life , experiences, pains and disappointments I’m dealing now with severe anxiety disorder. It hits me anywhere. Anytime. Very uncomfortable.

I’d like to exchange with people dealing with similar struggles

[Agora1]

Welcome Lonelylioncub to a caring support community.

I too dealt with Anxiety/Panic and even Agoraphobia that left me in my home

for 5 years. During that time, I became a shell of myself. Although I will say that

I wasn't very outgoing at the beginning. It took my researching and finding myself

before I understood how Anxiety takes control of our lives. Anxiety is a thought

that becomes out of control. Fear was meant to keep us safe. However when we start

fighting that fear it completely takes over our life. Anxiety is but a lie that we are

made to believe. That belief than grows into a fear and before you know it, it's grown

into a cycle of fear begets fear. We are then trapped. But do we have to be??

Not at all. There are ways out. There is a key in getting back control of our life.

Acceptance of Anxiety and it's negativity is the key that can unlock the door to our

mind.

Medication and Therapy can help us to proceed forward. But it still takes action in

order to win back control. Finding other methods/tools to keep going is immensely

helpful. There are many things we can use to help ourselves regain strength and

positivity in our day. I use Meditation & Breathing exercises 3x a day. Morning,

midafternoon and night.

With these tools, we can retrain/reprogram our subconscious mind to change.

I'm happy you are with us. Please continue to come here and share your journey

with ours. It's going to be okay. You are okay. xx

[Lonelylioncub in reply to Agora1]

thank you Agora for your sharing and caring words. I’ve been diagnosed with Parkinson’s not long ago and it destroyed me. I still can’t accept or integrate the diagnosis. This is the main source of my fears. My anxiety about tomorrow. I’ve always been healthy , active and in relationships.

It’s also very hard already to find a partner when you are healthy. When you are not « normal » anymore then you become a thing

We don’t want to face because people are scared of illnesses , death etc

So they prefer to take you out of their lives it’s pathetic

[Agora1 in reply to Lonelylioncub]

Thank you new friend for being so open and honest regarding your fears.

I understand how your diagnosis made it difficult for you to accept and so anxiety

about tomorrow moved in. You have been blessed for all these years in being healthy,

active and in relationships. Your diagnosis doesn't make you a different person.

The circumstances may have changed some but the man you are inside is still the

same. If you have known or seen people take you out of their lives because of an

illness, then that's on them.

We all eventually get some kind of physical issues that may slow us down but we

can't allow that to change our perception of the future. My philosophy is that,

as long as I have a breath in me, I will continue smelling the roses, living life to the

fullest and helping others more unfortunate than myself.

I've been in the medical field all my life and have seen people in all areas of illness

and physical issues including blindness, go on with their lives.

Finding a partner should have nothing to do with what you are dealing with.

If they are that shallow, then that is on them and not you. After all, aren't we all

human? Don't we all want to be loved? We do so by never giving up, never just

existing but living life the best we can. Thank you for being you.

You will find many on this forum who will support you the way you need to be.

We all care for each other in this community of virtual friends. xx

[Desperate4Happiness in reply to Agora1]

Do you still suffer from anxiety / panic attacks or has your practices for better health kept things in check?

[Agora1 in reply to Desperate4Happiness]

Hi Desperate4Happiness, Let's say that I now have control over Anxiety. It no longer

controls me. I have the last say. I will not be intimidated by it's negative thought and

lies. My Life, My Choice. It's basically about mind control. Meditation and Breathing

exercises over the years have provided me to be in the driver's seat.

I sleep and breathe in calm anytime of day. It's now an automatic response to the

belief in myself through Affirmation and SelfHypnosis.

Mindfulness is used in the mid afternoon to decompress my emotions and help me

carry on with the day.

No matter where I am (even in a big box store) my emotions never overwhelm me.

I just have to put my mind into a pause position, breathe and carry on.

Probably telling you more than you wanted but the answer is "no", I no longer

suffer from panic/anxiety attacks. xx

[Desperate4Happiness in reply to Agora1]

It's never too much information and I appreciate your candor.

My biggest trigger is work. I've somehow reached a point in my life that I am unable to deal with mistakes that I make. I understand that as humans we all make mistakes but I find it difficult to get past my own mistakes and it stunts my progress. I think it may be time to find a different job/role but I can't afford a paycut and I don't have a degree. Thus, I have to figure out how take control over my anxiety.

I am determined to put into practice the techniques that you and others have suggested. I've ordered three books today, thanks to you, and will continue researching.

Be well.

[Agora1 in reply to Desperate4Happiness]

D4H, researching is great but once we do, we need to put into action what

we need and learned. Making mistakes is a part of learning in life. However,

having a job that triggers your anxiety is a day to day problem.

I certainly understand you can't afford a paycut, not with today's prices as

they are. Hopefully, you can find what best suits you without all the stress.

My best to you xx

[Frustratedandhurt]

help me

[Dolphin14 in reply to Frustratedandhurt]

Frustratedandhurt

What's going on?

Are you ok?

🐬

[Desperate4Happiness in reply to Frustratedandhurt]

Please may us know what's going. At least let us know that you're OK.

[Formula1fan]

I am your age (58) and suffer from crippling

anxiety and panic attacks among other thi

ngs and would be happy to chat back and forth, feel free to use the chat feature. I am very sorry about your diagnosis and is understanding why the anxiety went into overdrive like. My college friend was diagnosed 2 years ago, I can tell you with his medication it is under complete control with almost no symptoms, I hope you can get relief of symptoms.

I have been a chronic pain patient most of my life so I have seen exactly what you say about "friends"...it is beyond pathetic. People say they care, they just don't show it with actions. I have kept a small number of friends that have known me, faults and all, forever. It is very hard for me to find new friendships because I don't out much and when I do it is with my Son, and his Mother frequently. so I am not out socializing.

I have a wonderful friend of 8 years, we are so much alike and have become brothers. We met because I bought something from him on Ebay. Talking back and forth through Ebay we forged a close bond quite quickly as we moved our conversation to texting each other, as close as we are we have never spoken. This may sound f**ked up but I didn't want a phone call to go unanswered when I wasn't feeling well even though he completely understands my situation. I guess you never know where a good friend can come from....these forums may present more than one friend for you.

I hope you feel better soon, my friend.

[Lonelylioncub in reply to Formula1fan]

Thk u from the heart 🙏👍❤️