Supports me and then smashes me

[sad_watermelon]

Hi there. My story is a little bit long, so I will try to make it short here. If you need more details to understand better, they are in my previous post.

So, me and my first boyfriend broke up after 20 months of relationship, because we figured out we don't want the same thing in life. So we stayed friends and we are pretty good as friends.

He is the only one who can provide me a talk (even though is over chat, it's good for me) at almost any time of the day, which is something I need to stay in a good mental health. He also is the only person who hugs me, which is also something I need a lot. He's funny, it's good when he hang out.

But sometimes he gets bad. He calls me bad things for nothing. For example, I changed my profile picture on one social media. The one that I use the most, but I don't post there, or if I do, it's very rarely. He started telling how ugly my picture is (it's me smiling on the picture), how I look repulsive, ordinary, like one of the many awful girls and he's ashamed of me.

I didn't ask for his opinion. You can understand that it made me feel bad. Not because of the words, but because he said them. I never cared about what people think of me, but when it's a person who calls himself my friend...

I don't wanna let down the good things, but I want to get ride of the bad ones... I am lost... He acts like nothing happened 2 hours later...

[CLB1125]

was he intentionally being hurtful or has a warped sense being funny ? Either way it’s wrong. I get the “you’re too sensitive “ crap. If they know you’re sensitive they should know not to say stuff like that. You need to come up with something to say back to him, like I didn’t ask for your approval or that’s odd, I got lots of compliments. Therapy can help give you the tools to handle these situations. It helped me.

[sad_watermelon in reply to CLB1125]

It wasn't joking sadly

[CLB1125 in reply to sad_watermelon]

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