My boyfriend likes to text his work colleague a lot multiple times a day when we are on holiday together and he doesn’t understand why it upsets me that he gets his phone out when we are having a drink together. He says it’s fine cause we spend all day together but it still hurts my feelings.
I know i should be fine with it but sometimes when he gets his phone out I get visibly upset and then we get in a fight
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Are these business related texts or social texts?
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Both but mostly social
If he has a high demanding job and needs to be on the phone for that I would let it go,
Socializing can wait, tell him to put the phone away.
He says that I being too unreasonable he should be allowed to have friends and text them whenever he wants. I don’t want to make him unhappy
You don't want to make him unhappy...he should also not want to make you unhappy. If he can't make you a priority you may want to reassess why you are remaining in a relationship with him.
Is it really just the texting that bothers you or is it something deeper? In general, does he ever put your needs first?
yeah, he does but I never feel like he does as I often don’t get my needs met. I think I am very anxious so I ask for a lot of reassurance that he can no longer give me
If I were you I’d do the same thing when your out, get on your phone and text your family friends, see how he like it 👍
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need support & maybe a hug
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