to much to handle

[Bookreader91]

Right now I’m trying to support everyone in the family and not fall apart myself.

My sister has just started chemotherapy for breast cancer. The day after her first treatment she ended up in the hospital for 4 1/2 days because her sodium levels dropped so low. We initially thought she had a stroke.

The day she got out of the hospital (Sunday) my dad went into the hospital. The doctors think he is suffering from advanced stages of dementia. He progressed really fast. One day he was a little off and the next there was a huge issue. The doctors aren’t thinking that he will last very long. I’m afraid they Are right.

Everyone is breaking down because of everything and I just feel numb and like this can’t really be happening. I’m kinda scared to. I don’t know what to do to help myself or anyone else.

[Shnookie]

So sorry U R going thru so much at the same time. U need to take care of yourself as well. I have felt numb I.e. when my mom had cancer and I was her sole caregiver. Your body is on overload. We R a supportive group here. R you on meds, dou have a therapist ? You might want to reach out to them as well. Also If you live in the U.S., try to contact your local NAMI hotline. Try tools such as meditation, journaling to get your thoughts out. The idea is to break things down. I know it sounds easier said than done. But clearing out your head will help. I’m here for you. Hugs 🤗 S

[Bookreader91 in reply to Shnookie]

hi. I am seeing a councilor and I am on meds. I’m trying journaling. There is just so much going on all at once that I feel like I’m sinking and numb at the same time. I’m trying to hold it together for everyone else because somebody has to. I really don’t know what to do though. What is NAMI ? I’ve never heard of them. Thank you for taking the time to give me some support.

[Shnookie in reply to Bookreader91]

You R very welcome. NAMI is a U.S. mental health hotline which should be in all 50 states. They have been very helpful to me. I understand what U mean by the sinking and numb feeling. I work 7 days a week. I’ve been trying to avoid being evicted from my apartment since mid November. I have a legal aid attorney and she is working to hammer out the details of allowing me to stay where I am. I know it’s draining and can feel overwhelming. Do U have family members and friends who U can reach out to ? I’m here for U. Hugs 🤗 S

[Cooking_nut]

Hello,

I hope I can offer you some words of comfort. I have been through a similar situation with my grandparents passing away one right after the other and we were very close. Then my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer and died 3 months later. I was an only child and devastated. I was 32.

Please take care of yourself and keep in contact with your therapist and psychiatrist. Try deep breathing and take each thing one at a time. Try not to get overloaded with thoughts. You are in control of only so much and nothing else.

Right now I am at the hospital because my ex husband was found on the floor and has stage 5 kidney disease and renal failure. My son is also here. All we can do is be here and listen when the doctors make their rounds and be an advocate.

You did not say what kind of cancer your sister has but I may be able to help a bit with that as I have had breast cancer myself. There is a lot of great information on the internet. If you can, go to your sister’s appointments with her and get information so you can help her.

I’m so sorry you are going through so much at the same time. Take time for yourself, with journaling, breathing, whatever clears your mind. Trust in yourself that you can do this one baby step at a time. Don’t “what if”. Just do what you can in the moment.

We are all here for you. Respond to me if you find my words helpful. I am here for you.

Sincerely ❤️