Just had enough

[Bigneil1]

Sat here in work and I have had enough, I just want to cry and go home. I don't want to be here and do this anymore.

[Hidden]

So sorry you feel that way.

Do you need a job to survive?

[Bigneil1 in reply to Hidden]

Yes, I was on the phone to customers all day and just feel drained .

[Graveg4]

Brother I have been there. I've had to walk out before because I knew I was going to go off on someone. It doesn't help I'm bipolar so I have to be conscious of how I'm reacting to others. If this helps, ask is you can go home early to deal with your mental state; your employer should understand. Blessings brother

[Bigneil1 in reply to Graveg4]

Thank you, i will have to speak to them, I know they will tell me if I don't like it then leave. I have seen how people with mental health issues are dealt with

[Graveg4 in reply to Bigneil1]

No problem at all man, if they are treating people like that then that's not where you need to be bro. Your health comes first man, I learned that the hard way.

[Turnipgirl in reply to Graveg4]

Yes health most certainly does come first!

With me health is top of my priority list and top of the pops!

There was a place I worked at where every week I was there there was always a member of staff upset and crying and when I said to management how I was extremely concerned over this all that they did was laugh in my face!

[hannah1987b in reply to Bigneil1]

Do you have to leave? It’s a big decision to make when you’re feeling like this. Maybe ask to take some holiday or take some time off to recover from this episode. Now isn’t the time to be making big life decisions in my opinion. Important to concentrate on getting yourself back in your window of tolerance first then address any issues that may be the cause by sitting and reflection or talking to a professional or family member or friends xx

[Turnipgirl]

There was a place I worked at that was full of bullies and there was always someone upset and crying every week I was there!

One day me and my friends saw a girl crying and were like not someone else upset and how it was getting beyond a joke!

I had gone to the girl crying and had asked was she OK and was there anything I could do for her and got her a drink and sat and listened to her rather than actually doing anything for her.

Stupid me went to the managers there and said how I was extremely concerned about how many people there I had seen upset and gone to comfort and all the managers did was laugh and said how that always happens as its usually problems at home rather than there being a bully around the place which I was concerned about as it wasn't normal in my view the amount of staff that I had comfortes in a short space of time that were visibly upset and crying!

I made the right choice in leaving that job before I became upset and crying every week!

[LoveforAll41]

I am so sorry that you are stuck being exhausted of this situation Bigneil. It sucks. That being said I hope that you can just do what you can each day and go on with peace. I think that you are doing well if you can keep your employment, but your mental health is telling you something needs to change. I think even simpler than changing your job may be changing how you think about yourself. I love the book "Feeling Great" by David Burns. I like my job but I was really struggling due to feeling like I was not doing well and got pretty suicidal. I went to a treatment center and have been trending upwards ever since. Had ketamine therapy, got on meds, and went to a good therapist. You can accept what is exhausting you and step away from battling it to find peace. ☮️

[mrmoto]

Welcome to our community. You can feel safe and secure here. There are many contributors who have walked the same path you are following. Finding a solution to your situation often requires the assistance of qualified health providers. Depending upon what is aggravating your nervous system, health providers may recommend counseling and/or some type of relaxants, such as benzodiazapines. Please seek out a qualified medical help. Continue using this site to express or vent your frustrations. All here wish you a speedy resolution to your anxiety issues. May heaven smile upon you.

[Bekindtoyou]

Then the simple answer is don't! Get up and leave. Good morning, in reality we all know its not that easy and jobs are becoming harder to get with more people wanting each job and employers wanting more from each person.The question I would ask is what is it specifically that you no longer like about your job?

What other employable qualities do you have?

Given that employed people are more likely to get employed I would suggest that you proactively look for another job whilst still employed and if you are invited for an interview, that's when you discreetly let your boss know you need the day /morning off to attend for an interview. They are likely to be interested in why you want to leave - you don't have to say why but they can't stop you wanting time off to attend an interview.

Have personal circumstances changed and as a result its had an impact on how you do your work? If so identify the reason and "own it"

By this I mean acknowledge that this is the reason you feel this way and make a plan to change things. Sustainable change happens slowly, a little bit at a time and as long as its well thought out is indeed achievable. Make a small change either every couple of days or just weekly. Smart goals are small goals that can be achieved easily. For example

You want to eat more healthily - a smart goal could be swapping a big chocolate bar for a smaller one and having some grapes or another piece of fruit instead. You are still getting a little of what you like and having something more healthy too. Another swap could be white bread to wholemeal - you could start with a bread that's 50/50 then go to half of the week being wholemeal and the rest 50/50. Small achievable goals that equate to positive changes.

I hope this helps.

[Teaching]

So sorry you are going through this. It's hard. Can you take a break? Just ask if they can give you a little break.

[Bigneil1]

Thank you all for your kind words , I have a few days off and need to rest, I slept really badly. The sad thing is I have a lot of good friends where I work but there is a large turnover of staff and there is a general level of unhappiness amongst a lot of people. Got to think with a clear head.

[Turnipgirl in reply to Bigneil1]

Think it through on your days off about what it is you want to do.

[TailWags]

I know how that is..... i hope things get better for you.

[AlsoStonesFreak]

I felt that way once. Back in 2020 when the pandemic just started, there was a week I should have called out of work to protect my mental health. Here for you.

[Zhangliqun]

Do you have a diagnosis?

[Bigneil1]

I was initially diagnosed with general anxiety disorder. It"s more like clinical depression.