I have posted on this site many times and after many years I am still seeking employment for an entry level or paralegal role in a law practice or anything by which I can apply my skills set .
Yesterday I saw a medical specialist who seems to have it all a career , a marriage , children and her Mother living with her .
My Mother as is getting older becomes irritable and volatile and until she leaves in three weeks I have to be careful.
I am 54 and so sad at constantly trying and getting no where .
I can only hope to move away from where I live as my neighbours have suddenly stopped talking as if life was not lonely enough .
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Hello R no one has a perfect life you said before you want a certain type of man job life, seems bit high I'm in rush as at doctors, try not to dwell on what you havnt got foccus on what you have, your mother be going soon you have plenty money etc properties you said you can make this work for you my health is unsure at moment unexpected my house renovation plans now on hold we don't know what's round the corner, sending a hug 🤗💖✨
Hi thanks R I've just left doctors having tests I have to do some samples at home, try not worry about future pensions etc I don't the state of the earth global warming etc, the best things in life are free, but somewhere nice in the country side or somewhere like I love next to a lovely park, maby some volunteer work will get you meeting nice people that won't judge or put you down, and youl gain experience for other work better than nothing on lately, and feel worthwhile helping others, get involved on here and help, your intelligent and kind, 💖
Twinkly has given you some good advice. I just wanted to add that my understanding is you can build up National Insurance contributions towards a state pension by doing volunteer work - but you'd need to check this out to be absolutely sure that this applies to you.
I know I've mentioned Citizens Advice before, they have paid as well as voluntary roles and with your experience and knowledge.....
I wonder what inspired you to call yourself waiting game.
I will continue to apply as I have realised I need to keep trying.
Today I was considered for a role but the job required relocation and was not commutable .
I have volunteered for the Citizens Advice and law Centre from 2010 to 2012 and despite my experience, a fellow advisor was promoted because she had close links with the Manager .
Oh no very sorry to hear that, can you apply again? Things change, don't let that put you off.Sounds like you're really working hard at this, something will come up for you I'm sure. All the best.
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Hello again you two yes Roukaya I wondered too on waiting games nam choice maby waiting for things to improve, well Roukaya and waiting game lady😁 the game in life is certainly a challenging one for most of us but I feel overall it's worth the wait, nothing in life stays the same sometimes we hit a rough patch which tests our patience I'd say mine was 5 years of ongoing problems major stress etc, but as you know last summer that was releaved finally by me buying a house beyond my wildest dreams my ideal location and house, one I'd dreamed of for many years, prior to that I had to witness my dad having stroke then his dementia from.this mam's 2nd heart attack just before this then him dying,a friend dying, then my rat infestation lasting a year,thinking I'd lost my home couldn't sell it until resolved not rent it bla bla with the stress things that caused re my drinking moving to my mother's 🙄I don't think a adult child once used to independence can go back to that, and Roukeya times flies your mother will soon be leaving and on a flight home, take regular breaks from her stand your ground tell her you need a break or shel have to go, its your home not hers, sending wishes for you both to have a great summer enjoy it whilst its here im counting the weeks 😁💖✨🐝oh I lost my dream job during COVID ☹️
Waiting game is a very suitable name and today St least i was considered for a Job .
As you know , I am fifty four and my Mother visits and fasts several days a week and becomes badly irritable and you need the patience to deal with her mood swings.
I hope your illness resolves itself and I hope you succeed.
Do you have decent neighbours.
After seven years the neighbours decided to stop talking
I honestly believe you deserve to be happy and your Home is your sanctuary.
My Mother does not have any idea how offensive or irritable she is and I do not answer back .
I hope I do not complain too much, it us simply to talk
Hello you need to get things off your chest that's what this forums for, I understand your mother and situation get you v down it's not easy at times dare I say without the support and love help leaning loving strong shoulder of a man, I often feel weak so don't get me wrong I may post mainly positive posts but I'm only human I wish I had the life we all want not just a nice home but a nice job a nice man I'm 59 and be 6o in August, I'm optimistic my recent health scare isn't anything that can't be resolved I'm v tired from bleeds,and 9 half years ago I hit a rough health patch I developed ulcerative colitis a chronic debilitating condition but I practically starved myself went on special heeling diet and by time I saw the medicine specialist I was cured, I also had start of a stomach ulcer, stress related, I really don't think it's that after all these years I feel better today for not eating much and have only had 2 bleeds, I had a nap after my tea, it's been a wake up call that we are lucky just to have our health even tho we don't have the nice job the nice man, I hope you will get a pet for company I know you can't where you live, but you can move hopefully, I'm blessed I have lovely nebours now, in my last house one couple were lovely but at the other side a bit so nice lady I had quite few coming and selling up the rats came from next doors broken drain it was eventually resolved when she agreed to have her conservatory well underneath drilled up and the drain checked and repaired, rediculous sinario she heard them running under the floor blocked gaps then they burrowed under to mine up the cavity wall into kitchen roof and under floor boards causing water pipe and roof damage leading to leaks and electric wire damage, these things can't be ignored, 🙄 sorry for the moan,got good news on dodgy leg spot too doc said looks ok monitor it, oh forgot I had Bowens disease too just as pandemic happend a potential cancer spot caught in time had chemo cream on, so yes I was kinda anxious got my old things back
I was once told all illnesses stem from the mind .
I wonder if you should rest and trust in the universe to give you what is best for you .
I once saw Santa Claus and he asked I wish for something
I simply asked for a job
As for a gentleman friend , I met one recently who showed selfishness and meanness and I realised I am no longer young but I think we deserve better treatment.
I hope with the appropriate rest you will slowly get better .
Life in our religion is meant to be a test of trials and tribulations as this shapes our character.
All I have is my Mother and I this is why I constantly put up with her anger and mood swings.
I think most men are misogynist I have been saying hello lately well quite while to a dog walker goes in park and down my street we got chatting other day I believe in fate who knows where our soul mate is, I'm not desperate I'm busy with my house n garden and keeping my mam company but I'm free to meet someone if comes along, I'm on a date site but need my front tooth sorting got dentist February, if you move house a whole new life could open up for you,I'm going to some decaf tea I'm thirsty and fruit loaf toast I'm hungry, yes I believe in the power of positive thinking prayer belief if I do have my colitis back I shall try and self help again, the specialist said last time during colonoscopy extra mature cheddar cheese can upset the good gut bacteria I was eating a lot back then and had some stress my cat had died and a relationship break up, I did eat more chesse lately and choc sugars bad too but not extra mature cheddar, just got news on about a storm ive missed it its abroad hope not on way, hope you sleep well 💖
Do you have a library to go to I got chatting to people there when used the computers they do coffee and have a over 5os club room I don't go there tho
Hi cat were ok thanks glad your feeling better,I'm just tired can't say how I am properly until had some tests I'll do samples tomorrow then take in,pixies flaked out he shared my chicken breast, yes nothings for granted my mam's nebours in hospital couldn't breath right block on heart and lung I know you had lung problem his is caused by heart fluid on it, he's 82, I'm just having chamomile tea so I may fall asleep 😻
Yes I had blood clots in the lungs a good few years back now but I recovered fully though.
This morning after that interview didn't go ahead I went over to the park across the road from there for a nice walk and to calm down and found it helped.
It was when I was going to get the express bus down to swimming when things kicked off when I got told the day to go plus tickets aren't valid on the express bus so I got the regular one and felt extremely frustrated and decided to cancel swimming for this afternoon and rang them to let them know I was sorry but I couldn't make this afternoons session so they could offer the slot to someone else!
I decided to cut my losses and come home early as I was so fed up and feel it was the right decision as its given me time and space to calm down and put things in perspective!
I'm booked in for swimming tomorrow afternoon as usual and I more than likely will be fine tomorrow after a good night's sleep and time and space to put things into perspective.
Yes that's wise best not to over work your heart if stressed I have v slight asthma and I found it very hard at first swimming puts more strain on heart if lungs work over time I used to puff and pant in swimming then eventually I was fine swimming loads, some athletes get enlarged heart from too much exercise, hopefully you'll swim tomorrow and enjoy it I'm going to lay down under cover before Emmerdale comes on hope to nap, enjoy your night 🤗
I'm sure I will feel better tomorrow and see them at swimming then!
Had a chat earlier on with my sister in law who said I was right to have come home early after that disaster of a job interview this morning and replace it with a walk round the park and how things can get a bit much and mount up if you aren't careful and perhaps I wasn't meant to have had that job there!
I do feel this morning was a valuable lesson in not going to that employer again and in the future should I get the 30 run by the cardiff bus company that it isn't valid on the Newport Bus X30 express bus that goes straight to swimming!
I think by accident the driver on the X30 did me a favour doing that as he stopped me accidentally from having gone to swimming and lost my temper there!
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