Help with hope

[Baconandchesse]

I currently feel hopelessness about my life. I feel like I should accept that I will be alone forever. I don't feel hopeful about making emotional connections with people. It's hard to accept being alone forever but that is the reality of my life. I feel lonely.

[fauxartist]

Don't accept anything that is in flux, tomorrow isn't here yet... you never know what's in your future. And we only attract someone who is at the same level of mental wellness we are...so if we are down, it's likely we might not want to get into a relationship right now anyway. Being in a relationship is not a cure for loneliness... learning to like yourself first is the first step. The only thing you can really count on is change...but you have to really make the effort and want it.

That's hard to do when you're bottomed out.... but most of us have a few good days....and learning to take the small wins helps. Focus on what you do have, even things simple, things we take for granted, things we may not know are a comfort unless we didn't have them. Find your passion...gardening, painting, cooking, photography, nature, what ever....and look online for groups that have similar likes... pick and choose what might spark an interest...

You have to get involved to be exposed to others that may work out into a possible friendship or relationship...but unless you do the footwork.... it's not going to fall into your lap. You may need to do a lot of personal growth work, find your potentials... get into healing the heart, and having realistic goals.