One of those days

[catsrock]

Having one of those days where no matter what I do, I still feel like crap. Tried all my therapy tools, but just want to lie on the couch and waste the day watching stupid shit on TV. I feel bugged about so many things: clients, relationships, keeping up the house, worry about wars and other tragedies around the globe, loneliness. At least I know I can vent here and will, hopefully, be understood.

[mizzou7016]

You are very understood. I struggle with this all the time...sometimes it is all we can do to move from the bed to the couch....maybe do a load of laundry.....maybe watch tv....maybe watch the inside of our eyelids...just do the best you can for today....and realize and understand that tomorrow is another day with another effort to try...

[catsrock in reply to mizzou7016]

Thank you so much. It's so difficult for me not to be hard on myself on these days because on my good days, I'm pretty damn productive and, obviously, just happier.

[mizzou7016 in reply to catsrock]

but at the same time it's okay to put yourself not only on your priority list....but to put yourself at the top of your priority list....been there....done that...not done that...as hope said you are justified in doing whatever you can for the moment at hand....you care entitled to say hey I need this

[HopeforMiami]

You are allowed to have a bad day. I've had bad months 😆 you are okay to do nothing when you don't feel like it and be compassionate with yourself. You're allowed to say f everything and everyone right now and take care of yourself.🙏❤️

[catsrock in reply to HopeforMiami]

Thank you - I appreciate your kind words.

[HopeforMiami in reply to catsrock]

Anytime cats. That's what we're here for. To support each other and to say f it when we need to. ❤️🙏

[mizzou7016]

when you feel overwhelmed

a friendly reminder

[catsrock in reply to mizzou7016]

Thank you - I love this. Especially about thinking of it as a quiet, kind retreat.

[mizzou7016 in reply to catsrock]

Also.....i understand the "frustration"....but look at where you are now versus where you were last month...last 6 months...last year.....you've got this

[HopeforMiami in reply to mizzou7016]

This is beautiful! I'm keeping it for myself to read it when I need to. 😍

[mizzou7016]

I try to use that....right now all i'm seeing is mother nature's dandruff....

[Agora1]

Hi catsrock, I'm a go getter myself, always busy, always finding things to do.

However, there are days when I just need a "me day". A time to regenerate,

without any guilt. (that's the key) Why wait until we are sick to treat ourselves

kindly. Read a book, watch a movie, paint your nails and just give yourself the

attention you deserve. Happy "off" day! xx

[catsrock in reply to Agora1]

Thank you!

[catsrock]

Thank you!

[LadyZen]

I have days where I just veg out in front of the TV. I don't consider it a waste though. I really need that time to settle my nerves and relax. So don't be hard on yourself.

[catsrock in reply to LadyZen]

Thank you. Settling my nerves sounds like something I definitely can use at times so thank you for that insight.

[LadyZen in reply to catsrock]

No problem. Enjoy your shows. I caught up on my Netflix yesterday.

[FSsimmer]

This is my first post on here, and I can so relate to this. I am approaching 70, but I have suffered from health anxiety for years. It waxes and wanes, but often I just feel crap ( I have an underlying health issue which I can cope with, so its not that and its only started recently ). I worry constantly about my wifes health, the possibility of being lonely once she passes ( provided its not me first!! )...I am not as motivated as I was, and yet I should not be like this. I am fortunate to have worked all my life, seen the world and be confortably off....Living in the UK is the pits these days, the massive cost of everything, rip offs, and the state of the world!!....Just what the hell helps???

[punkster in reply to FSsimmer]

I understand how you feel. I am seven years your junior, but I worry about health, also. I worry a lot about my husband's health, as he has had stents and bypass surgery. Death is a part of life, and as difficult as a death of a loved one is, we make it though it. In the meantime, do you have any hobbies? Do you have volunteer work you can do? Do you have any pets? Any family? You need to have something to look forward to, something to feel good about, and a reason to be around. Therapy can help if you haven't tried it yet.

[FSsimmer in reply to punkster]

Yes I have some hobbies but I even get sick of them. Tried CBT and that helped, but the days are a drag...I do need to get our more!...Many thanks

[catsrock in reply to FSsimmer]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time too. I hope today things get better soon.

[HopeforMiami in reply to FSsimmer]

I understand you. I have had so much anxiety about what my mental health does to my kids and family. I am horrified by the state of the world we're living in and how my children and grandchildren will cope. But as the Buddhist say, practicing acceptance and compassion are a major tool in dealing with our mental illusions. Although they are as real as we are, all things must pass and we have to find a way to be okay with that.

I hope you can find some peace and respite from your anxieties. Focus on the moment each time you start to think about things, and tell yourself that this moment is all there is so you can make the most of it.

[FSsimmer in reply to HopeforMiami]

Thank you so much. I have made a study of Buddhism, although I am not a Buddhist I can link to a lot of what they say. I do have a faith, well more a spirituality, and know there is more than this...Take care

[punkster]

We understand you. There's nothing wrong with taking a "rest" day and sitting on the couch watching TV. You will undoubtedly feel different tomorrow, or maybe later on in the day.

[catsrock in reply to punkster]

Thank you.

[Adlon57]

Yes feel the same way, just absolutely whacked no incentive to do anything, getting used to retirement, but whack on the head, double seizure, in 2018, means I can't exactly run around, like yourself "lie on the couch and waste the day watching stupid shit on TV" and there is plenty of it, we seem to be all ruled by that crap😒, I live by myself, the rest of the family feel almost embarrassed by me, so as less contact as possible🙄 in practice I need some sort of person to clean the house, bit of a tip at present, I can cook, light jobs around the house, been here for twenty years. Laptop gets plenty of use, always feel more useful using it, although recently shaky hands have been a bit of a problem, got my feelers out on that, hopefully something quite basic🤞

[catsrock in reply to Adlon57]

Thank you for sharing your situation. Cleaning the house is such a pain in the butt! I have 3 animals so there's always hair everywhere no matter what I do. I hope today is better for you.

[catsrock]

Thank you!

[Downinil]

You are definitely understood!

[catsrock in reply to Downinil]

Thank you!

[SameTimeTomorrow7]

Sorry that you're suffering. I've been there too. The only thing that seems to help is to get up , go outside and take a long walk. Let your thoughts come and go. If it works for you like it does for me, you'll get some respite from the negativity and start seeing things in a more favorable light. Best of luck.

[catsrock in reply to SameTimeTomorrow7]

Thank you!

[HopefullyHopeful]

hi, I feel exactly the same way. I can’t seem to shake myself out of it. Maybe its the holidays making it worse? I’m not sure but it’s a real bug that I totally empathize with.

[catsrock in reply to HopefullyHopeful]

I definitely have a harder time in the winter. Too much cold and darkness. I'm really cutting back on what I do for the holidays this year to give myself a break - want to only do things that bring me joy and doing XMAS cards isn't one of them!