Karma

[Ellamaye]

Do you believe in karma? Do good deeds and it will come back to you, always be kind and be fair and you will reap the rewards? Self doubt is creeping in.

I'm wishing I was more selfish then maybe I'd be rewarded and happy.

[CLB1125]

Well karma hasn’t done anything for me! Im still the one on the bottom! My SIL should be dust by now but the b*tch is still running her big mouth! Sorry not sorry 😣

[Ellamaye in reply to CLB1125]

So your in the same boat as me ...🤣 the one with holes in the bottom that's sinking fast.

[CLB1125 in reply to Ellamaye]

You got that right! And no bucket to bail!🛶

[Ellamaye in reply to CLB1125]

🤣🤣 better to laugh than cry

[CLB1125 in reply to Ellamaye]

Absolutely 😊

[fauxartist]

Yes I do believe in Karma, and you don't have to be more selfish, just more selective with your time and who you choose to spend it with. If you feel your always holding the end of the stick, then drop it. Some people say there are users and those that use....I believe you can have a healthy relationship with someone who gives and well as receives. If I feel someone is just a taker....then I don't go any further with that kind of person because I value myself and my time more than that. I't's good karma to give sometimes without expecting anything in return, giving freely what has freely been given to you as far as advice, etc. But you do have to have established boundaries in life, it just keeps you in a safe emotional place . Live and learn. Take what you need and leave the rest from a situation that is testing the waters.

[Xene]

I really struggle with the actual concept of Karma but when I look at from whence it originated it does make sense to me exactly why it was introduced and is believed.

[Hidden]

I think karma is out there. Some people experience it and some dont. I always try to do good or always be courteous to someone. I get a smile when I open the door for someone and to me that'd karma for me. I made someone's minute and am always wanting that smile for myself that I did something good. A smile is my karma. Then there are days I get nothing but at least I made their day.

[Stippler]

I deleted my last reply because I thought it perhaps not as helpful as it could have been. No harm can come from being good to people. But there is also the need to take care of yourself, which should come first because an empty battery cannot charge another. There is a balance between being kind and letting people take advantage of you. If you can show kindness without feeling violated, then I think it is good. Only you can determine this, and you will learn it better over time and with practice.

[CLB1125]

I taught my kids give from the kindness of your heart, not to expect something in return. Sometimes my son gets taken advantage of because of that. He also deals with mental illness and sometimes can’t find that line. But im proud of his loving heart. I do believe in karma in this fact that a rotten person will have to explain himself to his maker someday.

[mizzou7016]

Monica:

Ma'am you need to "get outta my head"...I totally believe in karma....some times it is an amazing companion....I will never let anyone struggle for too long...

I definitely understand the wishing to be more selfish....and being selfish sometimes needs to be the list....but the question I have is are you really being selfish?? Or is it deciding that your well being both physically and emotionally is important and you're finally putting yourself on your priority list

[Ellamaye in reply to mizzou7016]

Well said and something I will think about

[mizzou7016 in reply to Ellamaye]

Being a "giver or helper" I understand this struggle all to well....Sometimes I will be so focused so much on helping other people that I will forget that I should be just as important to me as others are to me...I went through a couple of programs at work that have helped me greatly...just remember....that you are important...you are worthy....and you are deserving

[Ellamaye]

Without exactly wishing bad on anyone I'm still confused that people who I think have done bad seem to get the good karma while I can't catch a break it does feel unfair. I'm sure you'll agree

[mizzou7016 in reply to Ellamaye]

but karma works in mysterious ways...On the surface it may seem like they are getting all of the good breaks.....but do we know what's going on behind the scenes

[mizzou7016]

it's not bitter.....it's reality....however what makes it hurt to us is that 99.999% of the time others don't live by the treat others as you want to be treated mentality...makes us kind hearted souls furious....but yet here we are...being continuously nice to people who don't deserve our nicities...

[Ellamaye in reply to mizzou7016]

I agree but as much as it passes me off. My own judgement of myself means alot to me and I have to look at myself in the mirror

[mizzou7016 in reply to Ellamaye]

I totally understand that..I struggle with the same thing...you need to treat that mirror you look in like the passenger side side mirror of your vehicle...objects in this mirror are not as they appear....and although I understand the concept of having to look at yourself in the mirror and loving what you see....the mirror sometimes fibs a little....you are a great person....and those important to you...and you yourself.....should be proud of what you see.....you've worked hard to get where you are...

[Ellamaye in reply to mizzou7016]

Yes and I will hold out that the universe will see it the same and reward me

[mizzou7016]

it's not that i dont want to be rude or cruel to others....I am very much a get what you give type of person.....unfortunately I don't always work that way....which is usually a good thing...I just wish I could be different

[Ellamaye]

Same it's me who judges me