I don't fit in

[Baconandchesse]

I feel as though I don't fit in anywhere. I am currently in college and I almost regret coming here, but I can't go home, my parents are very controlling. I don't fit in anywhere. I honestly feel hopeless about my life.

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Hi! Don’t feel hopeless! You are young and have your whole life ahead of you! I had abusive and very controlling parents growing up and you will eventually find your own way in life ! Maybe your parents just want the best for you and they’re trying a little too hard and they may not realize how much it’s hurting you! Maybe they had controlling parents growing up! Life can be hard when we have problems while growing up but try to be the best person you can be right now and make good choices for the future! I’m sure your parents Love you very much the only way they know how! You might look back at your life later and realize that your parents were just trying a little too hard but probably just want the best for you! Be strong! This will pass! It’s early but there are people on forum that truly care! I care! I hope I helped even if it was a little bit! Stick around here!! You’re in the right place! This is my safe haven right now! I’m older than you but I’m struggling too! We’re all struggling in life for one reason or another but there’s a common ground here!!! Things will get better! There’s Always a light at the end of the Tunnel!!! You will be OK!You’re in college too! That’s great ! Try to stick with whatever you’re studying in college! You can come out Winning!!! You can have a great future! You’re going to be Ok!Just keep telling yourself that!!! -Shay

[AnxiousSilver]

"I don't fit in anywhere."

You're here, and (in my opinion) this is a good and supportive community.

[Baconandchesse in reply to AnxiousSilver]

Thanks. I really appreciate the support.

[CLB1125]

How long have you been there? Give it some time. I know how hard it is but give it a chance. Throw yourself into your studies for now. Look for some activities you like and try those. Try not to stress about fitting in right now. I know, that’s easy for me to say, but try. I bet it will fall into place. Remember you are there to get your education set your sights on that for now. And we are here to help you and hear all about your journey!! Good luck!!

Forgot to ask, what is your field of study? Love your name!!

[Baconandchesse in reply to CLB1125]

Thanks. Your reply was really encouraging. My major is Economics

[CLB1125 in reply to Baconandchesse]

Economics is something I know nothing about. 🤷‍♀️ I’ll be interested in hearing about your classes. I never got to go to college. Couldn’t afford it. Would have loved to study agriculture or something to do with farm animals husbandry.

[fauxartist]

I hated being dropped off to the dorms alone when I started at the university, I was far away from my friends at home, and didn't know anyone, didn't like where I was, and the school seemed so foreign and distant. The classes were big and lacked any cohesiveness, just a lecture, and go read the book and then take the tests.

That was more or less part of my first half of the semester...then I started getting to know people, all kinds of people from all different countries, ethnicities, interests, and eccentricities...a very eclectic group, but somehow we all gelled, we all were creative individuals, and curious, and there were a lot of smarts with these new friends of mine...we started having potlucks, mad hatter parties, and lots of art, music, etc.

So if you can...it may take a while, but once the initial shock of it all sinks in, try and let yourself find some sort of equilibrium like water seeks it's own level. Allow yourself to learn from others as well as not just the academics, and find what your interested in as a person, it may help with feeling more comfortable and less anxious.