Undesirable !

[gerrerd]

Do men in their late 60s become undesirable? Im thinking this in my life, not like me but getting a little but down about it. I have a very close friend but she is not interest in going any further with our relationship, was thinking she is not interest in men. But now Im thinking have I turned into a undesirable old man. She says Im lovely and important to her! Sorry for moaning. Ray.

[Focusedmind]

I am sorry you feel this way, but your instincts are quite wrong. Usually, as the population gets older, more females are alive than men, so women generally feel more undesirable than the male population.

I have found that older women are often very good at being social with their female friends and actively planning events. Often, they are very good at volunteering in the community and in church activities where they meet people to socialize with. I advise you to follow their examples so you won't feel so undesirable. 🤗

[CLB1125]

Being a woman of 65, I find men of maturity attractive.

[gerrerd in reply to CLB1125]

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[Jennblank7734]

Aww. Sorry to hear this is what you're dealing with. Personally I don't think of 60 as an age of beginning to be undesirable. Well, I guess if it's someone close in age. I think if someone is telling you they don't want to stay with you but go on to tell you you're a wonderful person. they are trying to help themselves feel better by not hurting your feelings, make it easier on you. It seems so fake. Just my opinion.

[gerrerd in reply to Jennblank7734]

Thanks, They dont go into any detail about their reasons,😕 Im left guessing and confused.

[Coolcat6103]

Actually I'm single fifty and female and it's not you it's us. After a certain age the only thing myself and my single friends desire is friendship. I can't speak for all women but certainly for myself once menopause hit my sex drive.....drove off into the sunset. All I seek now is friendship and companionship and would never start another "relationship". Sorry you feel undesirable but she probably values your friend/companionship more than you realise, I suspect that you're extremely important to her but like me has no desire for a sex based relationship. Hope this helps. x

[gerrerd in reply to Coolcat6103]

Now if she said that to me I could understand, But it does not help my confidence seeing her daily. Maybe it would be better to just move on in my life. Hopefully with a warm caring lady.xx

[Hidden in reply to gerrerd]

Hi sorry late reply you see her daily so it's a nebour you don't work so I am assuming that 😊maby she feels that's a issue I wouldn't fancy dating a nebour Its a arward situation if you live close and she doesn't feel the same I'm not sure how to advice other than go out meet others sending a hug hope you meet someone suitable fate will sort you out I am sure 🤗

[Arymretep in reply to Coolcat6103]

Wow, I wish I was fifty again, that’s young today, speaking as someone in their mid seventies though sex isn’t important now, it’s companionship and someone to talk to is what’s important to me.

[Focusedmind]

Although this may be true for some women when they hit menopause, this is not true for all women. While companionship and friendship are essential for most women, not all lose the drive for a sex-based relationship at 50 or 60.

[Hidden]

No one undesirable - just haven't found right person

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you and keep concentrating on health and mind

Your on the right path, just keep looking

[CLB1125]

going to just jump in here about sex drive. I agree with the menopause having a role in our sex drive. Also many medications we take can cause low sex drive. Especially depression / anxiety meds.

[Hisue]

If you’re looking for a romantic & physical relationship, it would be best to make that clear, up front, at the outset (even though you’re starting out as friends; if that is your goal).

I have good friends that I am not attracted to sexually & never will be. “Chemistry”, present or absent, is real.

Theoretically, ”Every pot has a lid”, - but that “lid” is often hard to find.

Off topic, what happened to your post on Karma (why was it was deleted)?

[gerrerd in reply to Hisue]

I deleted it.

[Hisue in reply to gerrerd]

Oh. Sorry to hear that- I found it quite interesting & a good topic for conversation.

[CLB1125 in reply to Hisue]

So why do I have so many lids and no pots. 😝 just kidding. It may be that women get to be an age where they enjoy the company but are content with their life the way it is. Getting into a serious relationship at an older age causes many changes. Finances, children, maybe if they are widowed they feel like they are betraying their spouse. If she is content being your friend then that’s ok. We can use good friends and you never know…I told my kids you don’t find love, it finds you. In the meantime see other people. Have you tried the single sites for mature people? I’m 65 and I find older men very attractive.

[gerrerd in reply to CLB1125]

Maybe just a fase , everything changes.

[Hisue in reply to CLB1125]

🤔I’m a female; & I was advising gerrard - who seems to be “looking for love in all the wrong places…..”

[gerrerd in reply to Hisue]

😘

[gerrerd in reply to CLB1125]

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[Sillysausage234]

ray ,only last night a Russian lady told me on another website,that age is just a number

[Dolphin14 in reply to Sillysausage234]

SS

Is that where you have been all day? On your other site?

What's the name of it

❤️🐬

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

Why do you like russhian men lol 🙄long way to swim dear dolphin

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

I was thinking for Ray 🙄

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[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

I guess it depends on your eye sight and which way you look at the numbers re 28 could be 82🙄😜 yes what the 🤯am I on about 😁

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

hi ….ooops is it that time already ….sorry got to go …bye. Say hello to trixie

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

He said hello back meowow goodnight 😹

[gerrerd in reply to Sillysausage234]

Thats it Im in the wrong country.

[ElephantsHear in reply to Sillysausage234]

What website were you on? Lol.

[ElephantsHear in reply to ElephantsHear]

Just meant you mention Russian women…

[Sillysausage234]

hi , no been busy decorating….it’s only open after 10 for some reason …..it’s called ….рыбы

[Dolphin14 in reply to Sillysausage234]

You decorate too You can do it all SS

Late night business. Nothing good happens after 10 pm

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Dolphin14]

thanks for the advice you’re probably right …by the way before I go what’s your thoughts on rays post topic

[Dolphin14 in reply to Sillysausage234]

Well, I do believe some people make better friends. I don't think it's a personal thing at all.

I def don't think it's an age thing. 60 is the new 40

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Dolphin14]

Thanks ,..I think soo too….always the diplomat d14

[Dolphin14 in reply to Sillysausage234]

Dam straight SS

[Focusedmind in reply to Sillysausage234]

What is it you are decorating SS? And what is the word "рыбы?"

[LifeIsThePitts]

I agree with you 💯, snow. The heart wants what the heart wants...age is irrelevant 💘

[Hidden]

Snow your so right I was out tonight been my birthday celebration I had no intention of meeting someone I never but felt a connevtion with someone lives in nebiurhood we chatted as I was at the bar 🙄💚🌹I don't want anyone older than me as I risk been old lady on my own

[gerrerd]

Think I might have found it, fingers crossed. Ray.

[gajh in reply to gerrerd]

That is wonderful to hear. Fingers crossed too. Best wishes.

[gerrerd]

Thanks for your kind words.🤗

[Isinatra]

To your question , Ray….Heck No! 😁

[gerrerd in reply to Isinatra]

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