leaving my partner and worrying something will bad happen

[Breathterri]

sometimes I go out of town for 48 hrs or so to see my parents. When I leave, my imagination builds this whole other life that my partner has with another woman. I’ve asked him so many times about any infidelity and he’s never cheated before in any relationship. I’ve never been like this in a relationship. Why am I like this? It feels like I’m making myself so sick with these thoughts and obsessions.

[Weelon]

What’s different between this relationship & the others that you’ve had?

[bethelbee]

If he has never given you reason to doubt him before, there should be no reason to doubt his fidelity now. Have others let you down before?

[designguy]

You might look into attachment styles and how they impact our relationships with others and ourselves for more self understanding.

[LaVerdad in reply to designguy]

Excellent. I thought of her maybe having an ambivalent or disorganized style of attachment and together with his attachment style feeling even more insecure.