I just got here

[politeplants]

I recently got broken up with. and its not a surprise or anything and it’s not even that i miss him too much but i have to be alone again. and i just can’t stop panicking. i can’t fall asleep at night i don’t sleep for days and if i do it’s very little. i don’t know how to comfort myself. i have a pet dog and she comes to me when i’m crying but i don’t really have anyone else. I’ve never gone to therapy and i can’t focus long enough to do any research on my own but i want to get better at being alone. i’ve always forced myself to like someone so i’d have somebody near me and i just don’t want another relationship or to start any friendships when i can’t even handle myself anymore. But i don’t know where to start and i took this anxiety quiz and so i ended up here. Idk maybe if someone has some advice at getting used to being alone or any medicines or tactics to fall asleep? really anything.

[b1b1b1]

Do you know what you are anxious about that prevents you from falling asleep. Knowing what is causing the problem will give you something to work on. A psychiatrist can be very helpful in dealing with this type of problem, as it can be very difficult to resolve on your own.

[Wakeboarder24]

melontonin is popular for sleep but I don’t know a lot about it.

[Gingerbreadman1978]

firstly what are you panicking about sit down write a list then ask your self why would you panic about what ever is on your list if you can’t sleep at night are you sleeping through the day if so that is very hard to change don’t have too much caffeine or alcohol even if I have 2 pints of larger in the evening my sleep pattern changes and you are not alone you have your dog and your dog will love you unconditionally they are great get some sort of excercise routine on a evening swimming running anything to tire you out it works a treat try not to rely on tablets good luck gingerbread man 👍

[NYCmom2]

Addressing your sleep is priority #1. Life is on extra hard mode if you don’t get quality sleep. A psychiatrist or psychiatric nurse can help. You can meet in person or virtually with telehealth.

If you’re in the US you can search by state:

psychologytoday.com/us/psyc...

You can also call your insurance company for a list of doctors in your area.

[emmi331]

Welcome to the forum! Breaking up is always difficult, because it's a major life change. Learning to be alone is hard when you're unaccustomed to it. It involves liking yourself enough to enjoy your own company and it fosters a sense of independence. You may benefit from talk therapy to help you with this.I hope you will not get involved with someone else just so you don't have to be alone. It's unfair to both of you!🌻🌻

[designguy]

Hello and welcome here, although it might not feel like it at the moment, your awareness that you need to learn how to be ok with yourself and being alone is a good thing.

You might spend some time on the web and youtube and learn about healing low-self-worth which is likely part of what you are dealing with, it will help distract you from your anxiety. What I also found helpful with my anxiety was learning what it really is and how to constructively deal with it, I recommend the DARE Anxiety book and youtube videos for it, they also have a phone app that's quite helpful. Educating yourself about anxiety helps take the fear out of it.

Some of the things i've found helpful for sleep are Valerian Root tincture, melatonin and CBD. I even found a CBD tincture that incorporated other herbs for sleep. I've also resorted to an occasional Ambien and at one time I was taking Klonopin for my anxiety and it also helped me sleep. I've found counting slowly mentally backward from 100 to 0 and even starting over when I have trouble sleeping. I also read a mindless novel before sleep which helps. One of the best things you can do is try to not worry too much about falling asleep and know that eventually your body/mind will sleep when it's ready. i've been amazed at the number of days I can go without sleep and still be functional.

[politeplants in reply to designguy]

Thank you, I haven’t tried a lot of those sleep tactics and I really appreciate the advice! I will be trying the valerian root tonight !

[designguy in reply to politeplants]

You're welcome, hope it helps.