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Right now I am furious yet at the back of my mind I have so much self doubt and insecurity that I can not trust my own self reasoning. Let me explain and hopefully some of you will weigh in and assist me with my questioning and over thinking.

My spouse and I bought a used car yesterday.. I immediately took the insurance off the car we’re getting rid of and transferred it to the one purchased so he could drive it home. The person that sold the vehicle kept their plates. This morning my husband is leaving and is taking the car we’re selling. I question him and his logic as it’s now not legal to drive it without insurance. I encourage him to drive the insured car even though it doesn’t have a plate because my reasoning is that it’s the lesser of 2 evils and I can’t imagine most police officers ticketing someone for a vehicle just purchased versus the very expensive ticket of no insurance. Also the consequences of an accident happening. My husband acts as if I am insane in my thinking and I now doubt my thought process and critical thinking. Help!! Is it me? Have years of anxiety and depression robbed me of all my decision making skills?

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Both are illegal with the exception of insurance in the state of New Hampshire. Either situation can get you fined or even jail time. No plates is just asking to get pulled over…..the first question will be is the car registered. If the old car is registered (front window tag), your husband still wouldn’t be spared on the insurance front. Personally, neither seems like a good option. He will be at risk regardless. I see attention drawn to no plates versus driving and maybe getting into an accident. You can also quickly just call insurance and put old car on for a few days. This is normally how we handle. Literally can take 5 mins and barely costs a thing. I never switch insurance until I have all registration needs, etc taken care of. You aren’t out of your mind! You are thinking through what are the right options with the situation. I also think either issue could allow his license to be suspended. I guess it is hard to quantify the lesser of two evils. I suspect your husband is worried he will get easily flagged with no plates where as the other car could coast through the day and you pray for no accidents or police engagement. However with an accident and no insurance, that could wreck your life. I see your side 100 percent. Honestly, can he Uber for a day or two or find a ride? Just wanted to post something in case I caught you before he left.

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Just_another_nobody in reply to 012703060610

So each state is different when it comes to plates. Here in California, plates stay with the car, unless its a vanity plate. However, in all states, you have 30 days to register the car. Thus if your husband would be pulled over in the new car, he would simply show the bill of sale, ie, the signed title with the sale date, and as long as its within the 30 days, he will not get a ticket. On the other hand, the old car you took insurance off of it and you are correct, he would get a ticket for no insurance.

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