Depressed and Lonley

[Diamond99]

Hello everyone so I have been really down this week I have bad depression and anxiety and the holidays are tough I usually can message people and they are here for me but lately I tried to reach out 3 to 4 times to my sister to hangout or to see if my nieces and nephew wanted to come over but she just pushes me away and that hurts my feelings so much because of my depression I need to be around people more and None of my support people have Been able to be here for me when I need them and it’s been really lonely is there anyone who understands how I am feeling it sucks sometimes

[blackcat64013]

Hi 👋 Diamond 99, I am often in the same depression boat.

My psychologist suggested that I need to build my self-esteem so that I don't depend on other people to find my happy place.

To this end I have 1. created a music 🎶 playlist just for me

2. joined a thrift shop as a volunteer 🙋‍♀️ to give instead of receiving

3. returned to my hobby of tracing the family tree.

4. worked on the fact we can only change our thoughts about the situation, not the other person.

This last point is not easy to do & I find myself failing often, even after 2 months work, back into old habits.

I hope this helps in some small way.

Sorry for the late reply but I am in Australia 🇦🇺

🐈‍⬛

[MaineOtter]

Hello

I understand and I’m sorry for what you are going through! Please realize you can’t control or change how people think and act even if they are wrong, We can change our thoughts, feelings and behaviors. That’s really what we should focus on.

Maybe you could try making and developing new friends that would be there for you. Maybe join a support group. Get a pet, they give unconditional love. Volunteer your time for others! Helping others will help you and of course you will meet people and hopefully develop friendships,

Most importantly pray to Heavenly Father! He wants to hear from you, he will listen and be there for you, he loves you.

[catsrock]

Hi, I have the same experiences at times. It's hard. It sounds like you need some new support people. I like all of blackcat64013' s ideas.

[Toddzen]

I totally know how you feel. I live alone 15 miles from Town. I don't have any friends except my sister and she is obsessed with playing tennis seven days a week! I go to an online peer support group called LiveWell. Humans are social beings. I can't escape the need for connection. I wish I could be happy without people. My worst traumas were caused by other people being cruel to me.