Sorry for the Oration

[Kiltyman]

I lost my wife 3 months ago. I started to question everything. I'm trying very hard to cope. I'm afraid I got too chatty.

[Kiltyman]

It's actually been 3 months. But I'm having a rough time. She was my soul mate. Life will never be the same.

[Kiltyman]

Thank you

[Kiltyman]

Thank you for your kind words

[Kiltyman]

Thank you

[bonkers65]

I am so sorry for your loss. It'll always be hard, but it will get better.

[Sadbuthopeful]

I’m so sorry for your loss. Everything must be so difficult for you. I wish there was something I could do to easy your pain. Maybe surround yourself with family during these hard times, and if you don’t have any family around, you got us. Feel free to open up about your struggles. We all are struggling to stay afloat, Or at least I am. I’ve got anxiety & depression pretty bad and it’s hard to stay positive most days. Thank God for dogs ! Or maybe in your case, cats My two dogs are my therapy. Hang in there Kittyman.

[bethelbee]

Am so sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself. May her memory be a blessing to you.

[SayNOtoPanic]

Very sorry for your loss. It is very sad 😞. Hang in there and know she is with you, carrying you. In the love she planted in your heart. Be kind to yourself and just take it easy. Warm hugs and lifting you in prayers.

[Kiltyman in reply to SayNOtoPanic]

Thank you so much

[SayNOtoPanic in reply to Kiltyman]

You’re welcome man. We got your back. 🙏🏻

[Mohammad-341]

I can understand, there is nothing like wife in the world. For me my wife is my society, my emotional help, physical help no doubt sexual partner. I can understand ur loss but this phase will be easy if u can spend time with your children or anyone who can lend u ur ears. U can also chat with me personally

[secrets22]

it is indeed a long lonely road and i know it well,i lost my soulmate just over 3 years ago and its terribly hard knowing life will never be the same, you will get glimpses of how you once were,but it will be different. I find life harder now than i did 3 years ago,i have lost my humour and fun, but i am striving to gradually find some normality. I wish you well.

[SayNOtoPanic in reply to secrets22]

RIP to your soulmate. May their soul be rested. May they always be with you guiding and carrying you. 🙏🏻

[secrets22 in reply to SayNOtoPanic]

thank you so much for your kind words.x

[Pitalife]

Sorry for your loss,I'm in same boat my mom's on her last days and I'm totally lost,I haven't been able to make plans,being sole caregiver,and my brother took his own life to complicate matters then had to put my lil dog of 13 yrs down its very tough..try and remember the good times I know it sounds cliche but it does help the healing...my prayers are w you it's very tough to lose things we love..

[catsrock]

I'm very sorry for your loss. Chatty is fine! That's what we're here for.

[Pitalife]

Thank u itnis very tough to feel in limbo is the perfect word for these situations..they wanna put my mom in asst living,and there's not enough $$$$ so she'd have to go on welfare by the state,that means they take over her ssi,and pension and take the life insurance, that's my only ticket out of here when all said and done...it's a terrible thing....tough enough w my own anxiety,depression and bad unmanaged chronic pain it's all a mess....

[SayNOtoPanic in reply to Pitalife]

Hang in there Pita. May flowers bloom after all your suffering. You’re a good soul to stand by your mama and do what you are doing. That is purest love and she will guide you always.

[Pitalife in reply to SayNOtoPanic]

Thnx so much..it's not easy for sure..

[dwhp]

Hi Kiltyman,

sorry for your loss. don't feel bad for grieving. take your time and do whatever it is you need to do to help yourself through the process. it's not easy and it will take as long as it takes. we are here if you need support.

be well!

[Kiltyman in reply to dwhp]

Thank you so much for your kind words

[Pitalife]

I'm in 2 caregiver support groups,they help you feel not alone at times..

[Pitalife]

I try to get help n take me breaks or me time,luckily I can get that at times..I suffer w bad bipolar and anxiety and uncontrolled chronic pain, which is super hard to cope w alone...I'm trying thanks for your support..much appreciated...happy valentines day.

[SayNOtoPanic in reply to Pitalife]

My utmost respect to those who suffer with bi polar but don’t let it define them. Slap it and fight. Truly admirable.

[1962faithorn]

I lost my son 5 years ago and my grief has not improved I'm sorry to say

[LilyAnnepuppy in reply to 1962faithorn]

My daughter died two years ago. Parents shouldn’t bury their children. Prayers and love to you.

[Kiltyman in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray for your wellness😥

[Weatherwoman]

So sorry for your loss -- I feel very much as you do now as my Sig. Other passed away Nov. of last year. I am struggling everyday. Have family, but they are far away, friends don't live close. I feel Lost, also, it's a rough road, I know. Talking to a Grief Counselor, and a Grief Support Group online helps some. HealthUnlocked provides good feedback, and support as well. Prayers for both of us.

[Kiltyman in reply to Weatherwoman]

Yes I'm in the same way. No close relatives. Children grown up and moved all over the world. Now.living alone and not liking it much. My entire world seems to have changed. I spoke with one counselling group. They just said I was in denial. True, I still can't believe she's gone. She was at her regular gym class that day. Never been sick. And only 52 yes. old.Of course I'm in denial. So now it's one day at a time. Praying life is not over and I just haven't died yet.

[Weatherwoman in reply to Kiltyman]

Know the feeling. Hate the way things are now --my world feels upside down. Denial is part of the grieving process. Mike (my Sig. Other) has been gone three Mos., and I still can't believe he's Really gone, at times. My heart breaks for you & all of us going through this grief especially of our "other half," half of me felt like I "died" when he did. People in my Grief Support Group say it gets to feel less intense as time passes --l sure hope they are right.

[Kiltyman in reply to Weatherwoman]

Could we talk? Our situations are so similar. Maybe we can help each other?

[Weatherwoman in reply to Kiltyman]

I do think that we could help each other. I understand that we can chat on here (HealthUnlocked) --I see people say, PM me (meaning chat ), but I am not sure how. Let me know. Thanks,

[DropOfSunshine in reply to Kiltyman]

Can your kids come back home? Or maybe you can go to one of them? Maybe it would help to spend some time with them

[misslillie]

As for me you can never be too chatty.Always consider that if somebody thought you were too chatty they could always stop reading.

This web site is a tremendous resource that is fairly new. I suffered many years with out an on line support group.