Unlocking my innerself ,taking back whats left of me and reconstructing the new me. Help is all i need for i cant do it on my own .HELP PLZ

[Thembisile]

How do i deal with the fact that i've been cheated on so many times and the only thing i get is im sorry it wont happen again. I have had it now but now my kids love their Dad yet im heart broken ,exhausted, depressed and full of anger .it starting to affect the way i treat my gals cause im alwayz angry.

[EndUser13]

Welcome to the forums 🙂

I think recognizing that your anger is effecting how you treat others (subconsciously even?) is a good starting point. I would imagine writing out your most personal thoughts in a journal could be a good way of getting some self-reflection and letting out anger. You could always delete/destroy anything you wrote while still benefitting from the process.

I'm afraid there is no easy answer to your situation (as far as I know)

[Blueruth]

I don't know how different your culture is but in the US you'd be re-inventing yourself without him because you can. You can do it on your own but are are likely groups of women to support you emotionally and make recommendations on how to do it without becoming destitute. The kids will still have their own relationship with him but you don't have to put up with it.

[bethelbee]

I agree with Blueruth. You don't need to or deserve to be treated the way you are! Don't stay together 'for the sake of the kids'. If what is happening at home is affecting your mental health negatively, it is not healthy for you or your children to be around that. Kids are very perceptive and pick up on what is happening around them. An old boyfriend of mine years ago told me that he and his sister wished his parents had split up years before they ever did. I don't know if he is willing to go to therapy, but if not you may have a difficult decision to make.