Connection?

[Weelon]

I’ve luckily made a connection with someone on another app. She actually initiated to go on another app as the one before was shutting down. Every time I get stressed or anxious she’s there but when it’s just chit chat or trying to get to know each other she’s doesn’t say much. I don’t expect people to tell me their life story cos I’m a private person too. Am I Reading too much into it?

[CAGgmb]

It's good to have someone to connect with. Try giving this person more time to open up. If not, you may connect with others. Good luck.

[AFdale]

Maybe they are just cautious opening up online, I also have a habit of looking to much into things sometimes.

[Hidden]

Maybe she’s just weary about sharing personal details. Some ppl are just better at giving support and not so much in to the chit chatting. Idk, I can relate tho. For me, the better I can understand where someone is coming from, the better support I can give. I like details, and if that involves chit chat, that’s totally ok with me. It’s very hard to get a read on ppl through these forums. I have trouble reading between the lines (or reading the tea leaves) so to speak so sometimes I feel very restrained in what I can/can’t say. Sounds like she may just feel more comfortable offering her support at this point. If you feels there’s a connection, keep trying. Maybe she’s just not comfortable yet. Good luck to you with this.

[SCC1]

I would feel the same way you do, especially when you may have come to know each other in some way.

I don't think at all that you're reading too much into it. I think a lot of ppl would wonder "why" too.

Maybe she communicates better when discussing more general topics/problems than she does talking about herself. I know for myself, it's hard for me to feel emotions, and I'd rather talk on the "surface" about things and try to help others if I can. It would make me feel uncomfortable to start talking about anything that might bring up emotions, simply BC I am not an emotional person.

I think though, that it is still a positive thing that you are able to talk to this person, BC you can both understand each other, it sounds like.

You could weigh the importance of how much you are benefitting from talking about concerns vs what you feel when she doesn't give much info about herself.

Do whatever makes you feel comfortable. xx

[Weelon]

Thanks for all your advice & comments. They’ve been really helpful.