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Feeling emotional at the loss of connection

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Not sure I really know how to explain this. I met a guy on Snapchat and we had been talking constantly about things in general and really building a friendship as we both felt the same I think he panicked and he blocked me of Snapchat I feel very emotional and low as I feel that I have lost him completely and I will never be able to find him again. I know it sounds absolutely stupid sorry just needed to get it off my chest.

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Hb2003

I totally understand that

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Vapei in reply to Hb2003

It’s horrible that I now have no way of finding him again

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Hb2003 in reply to Vapei

I’m so sorry about that

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JamesSimmons

It's not stupid. A torn connection is always painful, especially when you have no options to heal it. Sorrow and helplessness are valid emotions. I've gone through similar situations, losing friends forever for no good reason. The only thing you can do is learn to love the mark that person left on you, and appreciate yourself more for having experienced that connection. We are gatherers of experiences and emotions, and you have more now. You are more.

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Vapei in reply to JamesSimmons

I appreciate your reply thank you so much, your right but I just feel lost that he’s gone and I have no other way of contacting him

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misslillie

Separation anxiety, loss and grief is real and a process we must go through at the end of even the briefest of relationships. But it is a normal natural process. And you will make it through to try again on another day. This I believe is true

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Lve2dance

Never feel such a way about your feelings.. They are legitimate 😊

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Poodie

Hi Vapei.

No it does not seem stupid at all. It is very difficult when someone decides to end a relationship in that way. Unfortunately this happens sometimes and even if you had a way to contact him, I am not sure contacting him would be in your best interests if he has blocked you. It is hard to let go especially when you have no idea why or what happened. But you are left without much choice.

It does happen. It happened to me. I tried to hang onto the past but I eventually just had to accept it, grieve the loss, and let myself be sad, plus feel all the other feeing that came along.

I know it may not make you feel any better right now, but you will feel a connection to someone again and maybe you will be lucky and it will last and evolve into something that is better then you ever imagined.

I am sorry you are going thru this now. Keep writing and realizing that many people here do understand your hurt and can relate to what you are going thru.

It is unfortunate that this is some people’s way of ending a relationship, but this is who they are. You can not change their character or always know why or what happened. Put yourself first and take care of you.

Best wishes. I hope you go on to find many friends in the future who can stick around for the long term. Right now the best thing you can do for yourself is accept the loss, take the time you need to grieve, and move forward.

Well IMO a real man would not have ghosted you, he would have stated he wanted to stop chatting and at least give you a reason so you would have some closure. Who knows what he is going through though, sometimes people push people away that truly care for them, some do so because they’re scared of getting hurt etc. The internet can be an iffy way to meet people too as many lie, many are in relationships and hide it. Maybe this guy had a gf and she found out he was talking to another woman and that’s why he blocked you. I know it sucks not having that closure.

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tinycrumbs

Your pain is valid, Vapei. Have been "ghosted" more than once, it's so hurtful; it made me obsess about what I might've done wrong. Looking back, though, I recognize that ending everything abruptly was their choice, & out of my control. Let yourself grieve for the loss, for the hurt your companion caused, but also think about what you can do in your power to grow from this.

If that's how they reacted, maybe it's not the right time for them, & you can't force that. I hope you find some peace amidst your grief.

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