Anger

[Taylormidnights]

I feel aa lot of anger. But usually fear. And. Threatened or hurt. I'm just trying to understand why I really have. Hard. Time. With anger. And honesklty I don't. Know. I'm trying my best to manage. It. I don't like people I feel hurt and scared oof okaay

[Hidden]

Well my friend your anger and fear are connected issues. At least safe to say it on this forum they are interlinked experiences. Fear is often the prelude to anger although they may not necessarily connect easily.

The reason I say it that way is because as a child I experienced both of those things a lot - and when I became a teenager they changed slightly in my experience but essentially remained the same.

When I became an adult I was finally faced with trying to understand why I so often felt fear and why anger took a more assertive reaction (both against myself and others).

It is that assertion implied in anger that is expressed psychologically in the most basis character of what we are as human agents (male of female) and how anger can take on a more harmful effect than fear often does because fear (fight or flight) can be both running away or taking a stand. In that fear sense then running or fighting may be a proportionate response to environmental events (home, peers, socialising and even just sensing others).

What I found myself was that the cost of my fear and anger became too great to sustain. So I began to make a chronology of my childhood recalling what had made me either fearful or angry and then moved onto my teenage years and then onto the more debilitating early adult years.

I called this my emotional shape because I realised that I was asking myself the questions out of my own reasoning mind about what were essentially emotional reactions of the ways I had learned to react even when there may have been no real reason to react.

Your expressions seem to have that character as well.

Chronology, of events pinned by just a few known events in both my childhood and teenage years and then my early adult life gave me a basis to moderate myself rationally and avoid those feelings of fear and anger.

I do hope that may help you my friend.

[Taylormidnights in reply to Hidden]

Omg yes it did a lot I will definitely use that