I am struggling: Female, single, no husband, and no children, 33 years old

[AnonymousPS]

My mother is in the ER again. It the 8th ER visit in the last 6 months. She had a surgery that left her unable to walk back in September. She was on dialysis from late September to November. Now, for January 14, 2023, they are putting her back on dialysis. In the past 6 months, dialysis caused her going back to the ER for blood transfusions. And, she was diagnosed with pneumonia. I disagree with my mother's care team and medical treatment. She 74 years old.

I have experienced adult bullying, harassment, hostility, etc from her caregivers, home health, etc. It has been horrible for me as a daughter to take care of my mother. I do not resent caring for my mother. However, I realize others have been provoking this.

I feel cheated as a daughter. I recognize my mother is being cheated. It is very painful to watch what is going on. I feel hopeless, despair, sorrow, depressed, irritated. I feel like the rug has been pulled from under me and I am having trouble standing up and going on, in a strong way.

I feel emotionally, psychological upset with what has been going on. My town is small and doesn't offer any support and is limited.

I have financial distress. I am not working at the moment. I have a college degree, but that is not in use right now. I use to work for my mother who is a retired woman in real estate.

I want to meet friends who will embrace me. And, eventually, meet a nice guy who will cherish and to take me on me as well.

[Agora1]

AnonymousPS my heart breaks for both you and your mother. Have you talked

with her doctor regarding your feelings in how she is being cared for?

What about senior social services who may be able to direct you or counsel you.

This just doesn't seem right in how your mother is digressing. You don't need a

medical degree to know that your mom is not getting better. My best to both

of you. xx