Breaking free before it breaks me.

[Shanm2]

I feel like there is a lot to unpack over this festive period, which if you have an dysfunctional family isn't always the best time of year. I've thought to myself how, if the people in my family doesn't seem to regard my mental health, and how i'm not the greatest when it comes to looking after my mental health, then whenever am i protected? It's not their responsibility, or maybe it was never as much of a priority.

It just felt like, My parents seem to add to - or cause - more drama, more grief and more trauma to heal from, and will it ever end? People seem to be adding to it more then they can mend it, and at time's its often felt that people just seem to push and push me, and continue to do so, because i haven't broke yet.

Now, as we're heading into the New year, I'm aware of more and more things and perhaps these people are the ones i need to break free from, regardless of if they're parents or not. Because nothing changes, if nothing changes and in right, only i can change something in my own life. But will i ever be free?

[Agora1]

Hi Shanm2, it will end believe me. Avoiding negative people in your life can help

immensely. A little harder when it's family I know. They don't understand and so

you feel threatened every time you are together. If you can't change the situation

then you must change how you react. Now if you are living with family, it can be

more difficult but still not impossible to handle.

It's all about blocking their negativity with your positive attitude. Walking away

when stressed out and find a quiet corner and breathe. Relax your shoulders by

dropping them away from your ears whew..

Doing this for a few moments can unbelievably release the stress and anxiety. xx

[Shanm2 in reply to Agora1]

Hello Agora1! I always appreciate everything you've reply on my post and its been a trying time, but let me tell you, that i have reread your reply alot and it has helped immensely.

Relating to the "you feel threatened, everytime you're together" It didnt occur to me that is what often happens when in family environment and so oftentimes alot of anger would come out, and instead take on their negativity.

Just by taking a few moments to collect myself and respond calmly rather than with anger, or simply walking away if i want too. Your reminder of this is very reassuring at this moment in time.

Thank you soo much, and i hope you are well 💗

[Agora1 in reply to Shanm2]

Shanm2, I'm glad my response helped some. Practice makes perfect.

After time, your body will respond in a more positive way when stressed out.

We can't allow someone or something make us become something they need

or want. You are your own person. Protect yourself and Breathe xx