feeling triggered

[Purplekoala88]

I have fibromyalgia (diagnosed recently) and have depression and anxiety to boot. Today i have a chest infection irritating my asthma and everything else, but im trying to still get stuff in the house done. I have two boys under 8yr and my husband tutors all day. We agreed today at 12:30 he will stop for lunch with me and help make it.

i am currently on the floor in the kitchen sorting the washing when my husband walks in and snaps about his lunch not being ready i check the clock its 1:20. I said he was meant to come out of his office at 12:30 and help make lunch (as i didn't know the time being on the floor). He snipes about being back at 4:30 and wants dinner ready slams the front door and leaves.

I feel so upset and its triggered my “i am a failure” belief and now i have lost motivation to continue sorting the house and making any food.

i am doing my best whilst he is working but i don't expect his snappy attitude. I dont know what to do-move past or through my “failure” trigger. Is he right or am i or both?

[b1b1b1]

A lot of men are funny about their dinners and expect them to be ready at a set time. The only thing you an do is have a talk with him about this. Otherwise, you will have to decide if you are happy enough with him in other respects to comply with his mealtime demands.

[Homely2]

How lucky to have 2 boys, but how knackering. Managing them all plus husband is more than a full time job.

Talk to your husband when he is not stressed by work, and understand each other.