Not swallowing insults anymore

[RoxyKind]

Do you ever think about why we internalize insults and swallow them down instead of saying "Stop" ? I always internalize. I have decided at 48 to let people know that I find things they say insulting and downright not ok. Sometimes it is small things. A relative of mine, saying stop jumping when I got excited because I was 'shaking the whole house.' It was offensive and stole my joy. I work out every day and log my food. I have lost 21.8 pounds so far. They know this and still say it. When I bought my elliptical, I got asked if I was going to use it. I said yes and was told "Right. It will probably collect dust." Yesterday, I logged 415 miles on that elliptical.

I also decided to tell my internal voice to shut up. If you are like me, the negative thoughts about myself go through my head. "You are not good enough. " "It won't work." The questions like "What is wrong with me?" and "Why did I do that? Say that?"

I gave it all up. I decided after looking around at everyone else, that we are all works in progress, and I need to accept myself as I am. Only took 48 years! And I am still a work in progress.

[moxoni237]

very well said Roxy what we embrace in a emotive sense does have a impact on self esteem negative energy does not serve the higher purpose our inner chatter can cause pain and anxious self doubt and conflict with self confidence replacing perspective with self worth you are worthy of better self being valued accomplished reflection when we start a new day leaving the past and striving for the ultimate goal of appreciation and wellness mindfulness and and transcendence calm and collective thoughts hope you’re walk filled with courage and relentless strength and focus

[Lve2dance]

💋. Definitely we are always learning every day 😁. It takes so many positive words to erase just one insult. I'm in my 40s as well.. I have to remind myself that I am perfectly imperfect, and there are those who accept unconditionally. We are all here for you.

[Blueruth]

when you care more about the interestingness of your wardrobe more than the latest fashion your transition will be complete 😛 💃🏽 congratulations on the the weight loss. Most people give up what ever exercise they chose. You found your jam. I feel like that is one of the biggest hurdles to healing. I was a skeptic but I’m surprised with how much logging helps.

You would like my cousin. She is my hero in this regard. She will never not be overweight because she was morbidly obese. But she lost it buy picking up running. It doesn’t matter to her if she is the slowest. Every day is improvement. One day I was hiking and some athletic woman comes up behind me with her music on (!!j and says “get your ass moving” as if I was taking up too much space. So I know how cruel people can be. On the way down I saw her and told her to “enjoy the journey “. It was the only thing I could think of but she was grumbling as she left so I know it made an impact 😃

[RoxyKind in reply to Blueruth]

Thanks, Ruth. Really ridiculous people can be. Great job to your cousin. I would love to run. I have PTSD and don't do well out on my own. Maybe one day? Nobody takes up too much space and from where I am sitting your positive soul is great and huge. Thanks

[Blueruth in reply to RoxyKind]

I would love to run too! That was one thing that always sucked in HS... when they made everyone run laps. some of us aren't built for it! I bet you will but if you don't you have the comfort of an indoor run!

[Midori]

Well done! I found it worked for me, if you can control the inner voice, you are well on the way.

cheers,Midori