Ugh getting holiday anxiety I get it every year but this year I finally want to not feel this way. The holidays tend to get me down. As a child I didn't have the best experience and so the memories tend to come up during this time of year. I am also dreading going to my sisters because she's always in a bad mood or complaining. But I am trying my best to go with the flow and if conflict arises go into another room and just leave the situation. I also miss my mom terribly she passed away several years ago. Praying that all goes well and that I can enjoy myself. Need to remember to breath. I just get so consumed in my thoughts that I forget.
May you all have a wonderful and blessed holiday season.
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I definitely have Thanksgiving anxiety too. We’re going to a family member’s house at well. My problem (at this point) is that they are TO HAPPY for my current mindset. To upbeat, to frivolous, to fake, etc etc etc and I can feel myself being drained at the table already. I don’t seem to have the the ability to “ignore” the noise like I used to. Wish we could all just engage in some meaningful, deep conversation, but that’s just wishful thinking. I find the youngest kids, and the oldest seniors to be the most interesting to engage with so that’s my plan. Definitely feeling you about the holiday anxiety!
I agree I just want to have meaningful conversation and none of the fake stuff or judgmental comments. I tend to hangout with my niece and nephew because I can't deal with the moodiness.
I totally get it ... I hate the holidays for that same reason. I always (foolishly) hope things will be better this year ... but nope. Always the same. Always an issue. Always a fight. I hope it goes well - or at least is manageable. 😉
Here’s what I’m going to at Thanksgiving dinner table this year:
Right in the middle of the all the chatter about the weather and the great sales at the local mall, etc … I’m going to jump in and tell everyone that I found a great new forum online for anxiety/depression where I thoroughly enjoy the meaningful conversation. I’m sure there will be a defining silence, long uncomfortable pause, then someone will say something like “well, honey, that sounds nice”. And then we’ll be back to the weather. Either way, at least I’m going to acknowledge something that I’m thankful for, which is supposed to be the whole point. Can’t wait to freak everyone out this year. My family needs an awakening so I think it must be from me! 😀
OMG I love it. That's what I'm planning to do when they ask how I'm doing. My response is pretty well since I started seeing a therapist and joined a group of people who get me. LOL
I’m so glad we’re in the same page about Thanksgiving anxiety. I know that my family HAS to be more capable than just talking about the weather, etc. We wait an entire year to get together and this is what it comes down to! There has to be more. There just has to be. Idk, I’m the only one in therapy so perhaps my mind is more “open” to more meaningful conversations than theirs. Either way, I’m gonna freak them out this year. Maybe it will take them awhile to come around but I’m hoping that someday they’ll see that I just wanted us to all feel more connected in a deeper, more meaningful way. ❤️
I had to learn to downplay the hype around holidays when I stopped drinking. They were big triggers. Then I also had to face the fact that I drank because that socializing in any form wasn’t good for me. I learned it was ok to say no to uncomfortable situations. Some,of course,I had no control over like working. It was hard at first to turn down invitations, but eventually it became easier when I finally got it through my thick head which was more important. Pleasing others or doing what I need to keep myself well. Holidays are no longer a big deal, although I do enjoy the decorations, music and food. But I can enjoy those all year if I choose.
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The Holidays
No holidays in 47 years due to Depression, Anxiety, Insomnia, Social fear, etc then 2 in one year !
Alone for the holidays
Another lonely holiday season!
