relationships suck

[tbaxley02]

I’ve been in a relationship with a guy for 3 months, it’s been going really well and very healthy. We were friends with benefits for a year before this and then we started dating. Right before I started dating him I was in a really toxic relationship that really messed with me. Now although I’m very happy where I’m at I’m also way more stressed and anxious. I’m constantly overthinking everything and becoming very paranoid. He has a group of best friends from high school and he invited me to a Christmas party and this will be my first time meeting all of them and I feel really anxious about it all. I’ve also just been more depressed these past few months and I’m not sure why or what to do. He also has friends that are girls and that’s new to me and it messes with me too. I’m just in a slump I don’t know if this relationship is too much and if I’m just not ready for it.

[DodgeDhanda]

Hi TB02.

It reads like ur self sabotaging by overthinking everything & I see a man who is ready for his friends meet his lady & that's all positives.

Maybe reading or crossword puzzles to help occupy ur mind to stop it from going to negativesville . It must really upset U when as U say overthink things.

Do U think it could be down to the negativity from the toxic relationship that U had & ur sort of waiting for the other shoe to drop as they say , but ur no longer in that old horrible relationship, now ur with a good guy who wants U to meet his besties & so if some are female , haven't U ever had male friends as well as female friends, it's the same & I reckon U would enjoy it all if U don't self sabotage .

It's something I've done to myself many a time & it's easy to do , but I learned I need to keep my mind learning if I'm not busy as if I don't I start thinking things that aren't even real & that's why I try to read a book or listen to an audio book too.

I hope U do enjoy meeting his friends & learn about U & what keeps U on an even keel.

[Raggedy-Ann]

He likes you. There's no need to worry. When you meet his friends be confident. You can handle it with grace.

[BrainIsFull]

I understand the overthinking! It is exhausting.

I would say that it is good to listen to yourself and focus on what you need. And I would also say to try to be open to this person about how you are feeling.

Relationships are difficult, especially for overthinkers. 💚