Getting to Know me

[dwhp]

For the past 30 years i've been doing all I can to please my parents. It's been a thankless job and not realizing having a narcissistic mother means it's an endless vortex of negativity and her needs while mine are never met. I've decided to take time for me and to learn about myself. i don't want to waste another 30 years catering to her. It's my turn now to live my life and be my own person.

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good for you for taking time for yourself! That is really important.

welcome to this community

[DodgeDhanda]

U go girl. U got this.

Don't beat urself up as a vast majority end up under the control of a narcissist , more common then we know.

It's all about how U get up dust urself down & ride off into that metaphorical sunset .

Yes it's ok to put U first & it's even better the next time mother tries a guilt trip U have ur own permission to say NO.

That no will empower U & it will help U become that STRONG woman that's always been there. U work on giving urself some good memories that U can always use to reflect on when mommy tries to domineer again.

In this group U will find folk that can identify with U & hopefully they all share their experiences & encourage you along the way .... now the warning ⚠️.

If U have any & all setbacks , its ok as it our own way of telling us to remain grounded. Practise makes perfect & U will get it done as its ur life & U are in charge.

[designguy]

You go girl - good for you!