Saw a caring daughter with her dad

As usual I'm looking for an excuse to delay going to bed as long as possible so I decided to come online and share a little something that I witnessed while I was out getting my Flu shot this afternoon....... So my appointment was at one of my local CVS pharmacies. I checked in and quickly noticed the place was packed with folks waiting for either the Flu or Covid shot. Naturally there people who were upset because of the long wait. Lots of very rude people who definitely tested my personal ability to keep my mouth shut and not make comments that would get me into trouble. But I digress, I noticed a man about my age who appeared to be going through some serious health issues. He was there with his daughter, my guess is she is late 20's early 30's. But what grabbed my attention was the love and care she obviously had for him. He was mobile and didn't need assistance moving around but she was glued to his side at all times. She asked him if he wanted to shop for anything while they waited, she fixed his hair, she laid her head on his shoulder as they sat in the waiting area. Their relationship filled the room. At one point I got so emotional watching their interaction that I had to move to another section just to compose myself. They've been on my mind since I got home. I wanted desperately to fill a small bottle with their love and affection so I could take it with me. I miss my son terribly. Up until 3 years ago we had an awesome relationship. From the time I first held him in my arms at hospital in 1995 to this very moment there has been nothing I love more in the world, not even myself. Anyway, thanks for reading and letting me share my day

[just_keep_swimming]

thank you for sharing 💜

[redrabbitniner]

we must be close in age! I have two boys and a daughter all of whom I adore. My oldest can’t make it down for my bday this year, which makes me sad. These middle aged years are hard! Can you reconcile with your son? Sounds like it is more than worth it.

[Hidden in reply to redrabbitniner]

Hello, I would very gladly trade my life for the opportunity to be able to reconcile with my son. Or at least to be able to start some type of dialogue. Unfortunately he's decided to cut me off completely. Has blocked me from all social media and calls. He's at an age, I'm sure you can relate, where he believes we all live forever and time is endless. He's 27, has a great career in Engineering and at the moment the world is his Oyster, or so he thinks. Don't get me wrong, I don't blame my son one bit for being angry with me. My divorce was brutal and, like many ugly divorces, both his mom and I allowed ourselves to turn into vicious people, all over money and splitting assets. He and I had a great relationship and he was desperately trying to convince me to "just let it go". Of course by then I had turned into someone I didn't even recognize in the mirror so I wasn't going to wave a white flag and simply "let it go". By the time we got into court she and I were like 2 bulls in a ring. My son and I soon after began to argue every moment we had. I could see the hatred growing in his eyes. Sorry, being a bit dramatic, but I'm sure you get my point. Fast forward 3 years and I've exhausted all efforts to try and reach him. At this point all I know is he's moved to California (I live in New Jersey) and the company he works for, understandably, won't help me with any information. When I was a kid (teenager) I hurt someone who went out of his way to give me a job and try to keep me off the streets. He tried to be a mentor and I completely betrayed him. When I got a bit older I decided to find this man and, at the very least, apologize for what I had done. Unfortunately he had died a few years before. I remember visiting his grave and falling to my knees after being overwhelmed with guilt and grief for hurting him. I'm 53 and still think of that man. Of course the situation with my son is different because he did nothing to hurt me but I can't help but be fearful that one day he will experience that type of pain, the pain that comes from unresolved hurting. I'm sorry you can't see your oldest for on your birthday but I truly am glad to hear that your relationships with your children are good. I'm not just saying that, it always does my heart good to hear and see children happily with their parent/parents. And again, sorry for the long and dramatic reply but it saves me money on therapy... LOL!

[redrabbitniner]

because we are Dads, and have taken those lumps you describe, we also have wisdom, eh? My vote is that keep trying gently, over time, and really work on changing yourself. Someday, he will come back around. Keep your heart and door open.