Things I did and didn't even notice

[Froggie865]

My wife informed me Tuesday that our marriage is over. I had unk knowingly been channeling my anxiety into anger and frustation towards her and my family. Still trying to get a second chance, as this is the first hurdle we have come upon. Right now sleep is a dream that can't be reached, i cry at random times and it feels like my chest is going to explode 90 percent of the time. Im looking for pointers on how to channel this better as i write a long letter of apology to her.

[Froggie865]

Im hoping sharing here will help. I have calmed the demons of other vices this way.

[Agora1]

Welcome to this safe site Froggie865. I read your bio. Military Police Officer had to come

with a lot of stress and frustration during the years. We all have a built in pressure system

that can only handle so much before it unfortunately spills out onto our family.

Addressing these stresses through a professional therapist can immensely help release it

by addressing the issues causing it. I'm sorry for where you find yourself right now but hopefully with the help of counseling you can save your marriage. We all come to a

breaking point in our lives that causes us to fight for what we believe in.

My thoughts are with you during this most difficult time in your marriage. Fixing yourself

first will help you fix those issues around you. Stay Positive. We are here to help support

you because we care xx

[designguy]

From what Agora 1 said you may well be suffering from ptsd or c-ptsd /trauma and would benefit from working with a therapist that specializes in treating trauma/c-ptsd. Mine used emdr therapy which was very helpful.