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The only thing we can control is our reaction.

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Lve2dance

It is so true, but not always easy.

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gerrerd in reply toLve2dance

Practise makes perfect.

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It's not easy when family you live with try to control your thoughts and feelings because you are responsible for their happiness. It's exhausting

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Happiness comes from within, Look after yourself first. your family need to be responsible for their selves.

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Lve2dance in reply togerrerd

Exactly thank you

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Agora1

These words are the "key" to our mental health.

Have a good weekend my friend :) xx

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gerrerd in reply toAgora1

And you too xxxx

This is true, but what if the other person is trying to make you the problem? I made a mistake back in December, did what I could to make anends, but something's not computing in the other person's mind. She's still at it. I wonder if she knows everybody but her is sick of her "holding grudges" antics?

Update since you know a bit about my story: hubby and I just requested to talk to the pastor.

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People's opinions and behaviour belongs to we can only control our reaction to them.

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True, but what if they try and blur that line?

I talk to the pastor on Wednesday.

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They have no control unless you allow it.

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True. It's just hard when you make a mistake and next thing you know it's advertised to every Tom, Dick, and Harry out there. I feel like I'm having to prove I'm not the mistake this person has tried to make me out to be. I've fully forgiven myself. This person has not. While that is her right, it is not her right to punish/abuse me for my mistake.

I guess what I'm saying is that it's really hard to control how you react when the other person keeps throwing punches.

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1 idiot, people probably know this about them! most people will think kindly of you!

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They actually do. This person has a history of this apparently. I don't mean to drag you into this. I'm just venting. I've done a ton of processing on my own. My ultimate conclusion is that this person wanted to control me, lost said control, and is mad because of it. I seriously do not understand people who do such a thing. This is why I am talking to the pastor tomorrow (I am not entering that church again without doing so first. It is very tragic that I don't feel safe entering a church!). Whoops...there I go again! Thanks for not being in my head; it's too crowded up there for its own good. I have another trauma session on Thursday.

I appreciate your posts very much.

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Thanks.

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i think it's not so easy to control our reactions in many occasions. i'm a very spontaneous person and most of the times i can't completly control my emotions and reactions and so i behave in a stupid way and i do exactly the opposite of what i'd like and i'm supposed to do, but i'd like to be more in control of my feelings and not to let other people's actions influence my life. any advice?

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Work on yourself every day. Go to potentials unlimited, nightingale connant, Hay house. Sounds true, life tools. Centre pointe research. Sedona method. you can find them all online loads of programs for you to use daily then chance will happen. Ray.

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