Overthinking what i could have done

[Against_the_current]

Overthinked going to Grandma's. Now overthinking i should have invited friends at home for my birthday, ordered ipzza and bought ice cream Cake and played my play list instead of going to the Cake caffee. Sorry for being inactive, my roommate partied her nameday night and day, then i went out for my birthday and am exausted

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but ..u were planning ...go ahead anytime....bravbrav....iho;pe i didnt hurt u...i worry i was too strong.....so wish icouldp;rotect u molre and chagne ur situation..sorry

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

I guess the fact that i planned something, even not the best, and did it, is an acomplishment itself, thanks

[SoporRose]

“Overthinking” is sometimes what we have to do to get a sense of control and understanding of something that has happened to us. You are bombarded by your family with demands and you don’t have time to let anything get settled in your head before the next thing comes along, so of course your head is spinning.

Is your therapist back yet? It sounds if you really need someone with whom you can sort out your thoughts in person.

Ruth

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

Exactly, i'm so bombarded with my family problems, that i'm overwhelmed and that i have no time for myself and to plan. Session is Tommorrow. She's so fast and has to wait for another week

[SoporRose in reply to Against_the_current]

I'm not sure what you mean by "She's so fast and has to wait for another week"? Who is so fast?

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

My therapist to finish the session

[Against_the_current]

Yeah, you're right. When some time passed, i feel better

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not to lecture but too old....dont mean it neg....yes ...decision making is learnedpracticed

has a learning curve

developd through small decisons

allowing for slow develop;ment of solid.....confidence , mentors turn over areas for us to handle and help us develop our skills and decision making...same as interns and residents in vet med

interns are the nursing staff

first year residents are not third year

first year docs not 30 year

life......all docs grow through cases ..have some wins some losses and change with time.....they have to acce;pt it......

case assesement throgh phyiscal exams

is first taught to seniors in vet school....and crituqed

the student must work up the case and presnet options

decisions and reviewed by faculty.....

small deisions....what food, etc are actually v imporatant and practiced under supervisiosn but .....no matter how small

they made a decision.....

its not......small achievement............do we take him to surgey or or or????

vets are trained........not gods....

good....job.........

C u ......tomorrow.....

being taken seriosly....is a complement sure u know that

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

dont...beat urself up that we benefit from a bunker buddy

its designed that way

surgeons confide in each other.......noooo diff

my mother used to harp how my brother needed a friend...but she has tons of friends.......ignore morons lke her.......why would we develp; cities and commuinities if we didnt need one another.........movie developers colaborate and share ideas....don listne to idiots and feel....oh i cant bnefit from ohthers

ya right.....ever hear of surgical conference calls...(really sayhingthis at mhy idiot mother not u (

tk care

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

This is really important, i have hard time with idiots

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

I see, so all these desisions, even small, even wrong, or whatever help us build the confidence which i don't have

[Hidden in reply to Against_the_current]

why would u have confidence???

most students dont

most people going into the army dont

people in the Olympic games the first time are petrified

why rhey have older riders

and coaches.....right there.....many are throwing up all night...

ive trained countless riders and then trainers...

give them a horse..they have to assess and work on training or teaching...first teaching is sooo scary....we konw that

we all were there once...

some hair splitters will say..ya but

ya know......so rare....its rediculous

test anxiety ........univrsal

what saddle should u use what length of stirrrup; what antibiotic....is it a cold or covid? what tests should i run

but whats the budget

we know....and expect and ask people

write a biogra;phy

students want to knowwhat should i write

exactly....andget mad today becaus e iwwont tell them

force them to make the choice

starting them on their journey

have u seen lionesses teaching her cubs...its hilarious

im still learning but now in art..........trial and errror reading thinking and

yep.....

universal......confidence.....isdeveloped

in our horses

in our students

koreans were terrrifed of horses

eight weeks later....flying past the cocky americans

because they listened to the old man teaching trhe fundamentals........not fancy not new techniqauesnot isntantsucess......step by step and practice

blew past the other students looking for the new magic formula

aint none

same old steady practice.....no new technique

fundamentals fundamentalsfundamentals....

americans all looking for instant success...

dont work that way.....

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

been an instructor for 45 years.....2 percent are confident usually do to early start or prior instructionrest...scared spitless....ya so what.....why have schools if we expect them to know everyting at birth....

generation after genra5ion since before greece...

train and educate and develop each othr

socratric method....

George Washington army lost most battles for 8 years.....

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the american army invaded North Africa inWW2 rather than France because our commanders knew they needed the training....

green as grass esp compared to the Brits and Germans....

they werent scared??????

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

the only perfect student...is the one not training...sitting up in the bleachers with all the answers.....those....we detest.....

mistakes??? why do we practice daily....i started at 8...

end less.........practice.......works.....develops sense of readiness...

i spent 18 months gettng ready for my instructor exam....

til i was past ready..the exam was oral and practicum 4 days....

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

I see. I need to make desisions to get good at it