Salt

[Bookishbunny]

Salt has become a big deal at my job. We my boss coworker and I work in a private office upstairs. Downstairs is a break room shared by the doctors nurses and receptionists. My coworker has bought salt for the three of us to use and keeps it somewhere in either her filing cabinet or desk to keep anyone from downstairs from stealing it. She allows them to use it and return it. But ever since a receptionist found out about it she has asked for it daily after promising to buy one. Well today I was eating alone while my coworkers were gone and she called out from the bottom of the stairs for salt (yes she even refusing to walk up the steps, says it’s to much work). Anyway I told her I didn’t know where it was and I didn’t wanna go through her things. She left in a huff . I was on video call with me dad and he said , wow someone’s mad. And now I’m paranoid they will all hate me and be mad! I’m so stressed I feel sick. We were in good terms before this. Did I do something wrong?

[Hidden]

No, you did nothing wrong. This sounds like anxiety talking. This happens to me quite often. Way too often I feel shame and guilt for having possibly done something wrong when someone else gives even the slightest hint of being mad at me. Please believe me when I say it has more to do with them than with you, with quite possibly all of it having to do with them.It's okay. Easier said than done to be convinced it has more to do with them (boy, do I know that since I'm in that inner battle right now!), but it's true. Together we've got to find some way of convincing ourselves of this.

[Bookishbunny in reply to Hidden]

Thanks

[Hidden]

You Don’t Need ‘ ‘em, Let the Welfare Fed ‘em

[Hb2003]

Hmm seems like an exorcist is in need of some Salt sorry for the joke but on a heartfelt note no one will hate you you did nothing wrong ☺️❤️ Lots of hugs 🥰🫂

[hypercat54]

One of the hardest things to do when you suffer from anxiety is to separate yourself from things that are your responsibility or someone else's. It is your co-workers salt and nothing to do with you. If someone asks you for it say no and they will have to speak to the owner. Stay out of it completely.

My sister is the same and I have tried to explain this to her but she doesn't seem able to understand it. One good example is a man was looking at one of the other flats in the block and he wanted to know what it was like to live here. She actually gave my number to this chap and 'promised' he could ring me.

I went into one with her and said never give my number out to strangers, and what she should have done is take his number and say she would ask me to ring him Her job would have been done. She said she would feel guilty if I hadn't spoken to him as she would have broken her promise! No - her involvement ended there. What I chose to do was not any of her concern.

Do you get what I am saying? Only take responsibility for what is yours, not other people's.