Partner support

[naty040212]

Any advice on how you can help your partner understand what your going through? I know this is hard to do. My bf of 8years has been with me through my struggles of when I first got diagnosed with adhd, then anxiety, then depression and last bipolar. The thing is that he doesn’t get my struggles. He gets frustrated and mad when I do something that affects the family. Can it be me not trying? Maybe. Can it be me not realizing it? Definitely. I sometimes get frustrated and do something like leaving my shoes by the couch, etc. he hates it and tells me I don’t care. Other times I get anxious and depressed and I binge shop. I have 2 small kids and sometimes I wonder if it is right of me staying in this relationship if he doesn’t understand what I go through. But then I think of the good things we have gone through and change my mind. I pretty much can’t trust my feelings anymore because I don’t know which I am right about and which is just me overreacting. Any advice would help.

[Louie35]

Maybe try couples counseling, a third party non bias perspective that might help you both through the fog and confusion

[bethelbee in reply to Louie35]

I was going to suggest the same thing. Have him go to therapy with you. There are also good articles out there on how to support someone struggling with mental health issues. I just sent one to a friend. Though your bf will never truly understand what you're going through unless he has experienced it himself, it may help him have a better understanding of you and what you deal with. It is NOT you not trying or you not realizing it. You can't help it. It is not therapeutic for him to get mad at you and probably just makes you feel worse.