Support buddy wanted

[Louloubelle26]

Hi, I was diagnosed with combined ADHD last August at the age of 51. I had struggled all my life and had been diagnosed with depression/PMT/menopause etc but finally my diagnosis made sense of my life. However life, as we know, is never that straightforward and I also had a lot of unresolved childhood issues that were, I suspect, exacerbated by the undiagnosed ADHD. With medication, lots of support and learning new tools, plus this new concept of self acceptance 😉, my life was on a road that I wanted to be on.

Then my brother, who I was estranged from and had been for 20 years, committed suicide. That was 3 months ago

I've tried different meds and gone back to what I was on originally and I think I'm finally admitting that I've had an emotional dam burst. I am completely overwhelmed and I am not coping.

One of my biggest issues is when I am in a state of depression, I don't recognise or accept that I am. It's like somebody sneaked in and put dark glasses on me and now my whole outlook is in complete contrast to the "normal" me. My husband who is my greatest support I now see as my enemy.

So I was wondering if anyone would act as a support buddy? Maybe just to check in with each other but also to try to help me to question whether I am seeing life through the dark glasses of depression..

I have a counsellor and I am aiming to get bereavement support but I just want all the help I can get and maybe give some back

Thanks for reading xx

[Louie35]

I'm sorry for your loss, death in the family is never easy, even if you were estranged. I guess i can be a support buddy

[puppyplaytime]

Our stories sound a bit similar. I've been estranged from my family for 12 years, and strongly suspect I suffer from mild ADHD. I've definitely been diagnosed with anxiety and depression, and have been on mild meds for them for several years.

I experience the same kind of dark-glasses effect when I get depressed. I find that walking helps clear my mind, as well as other distractions like home-improvement projects.

Sounds like you're doing all the right things, and have a healthy perspective on your condition. Not sure if I'd qualify as a support buddy, but I'd be willing to listen and share stories, given some of our patterns are similar.

[kenster1]

hi sorry to hear of your dearest brother god bless him.we have a bereavement forum here that could offer added support and it`s called bereavement care and share.great little community all of us suffered loss.I`m unfortunately estranged from my brothers and thoughts of them passing are never away and that hurts but you can count all of us as a buddy.

[Daveacr1959]

We are here for you. One of the wisest things I ever read is.., people with depression live in the past.. people with anxiety live in the future.. live in the moment.. or something like that.. it’s on you tube and the internet., and I know it can be more complex than that