Why do we always miss the ones who hurt us?

[Survivor1687]

Ran across this...

“We miss the ones who broke us because we tend to yearn for what could have happened if nothing had changed.

You miss them, the versions of them that you saw before they broke your heart.

You miss them because at some point they made you feel understood, seen, and loved.

You miss them because you miss being loved, you miss the parts of you that felt like it couldn’t get any better.

You know, when people leave, it doesn’t matter how much hurt they’ve caused us, sometimes, we will continue loving them even when it hurts.

And that doesn’t make you dumb.

Sometimes it just makes you angry that you should be hating them for breaking your heart, instead you’re just missing them to the point where you feel like your heart literally hurts.

It’s like mourning the death of someone who is still alive.

You miss them constantly because they made you feel things, at some point they actually cared.”

“But isn’t love all about forgiveness and second chances?”

“You can love someone and still let them go.

You don’t need to hold on when there’s nothing to make you stay.

You can love someone so much but if they constantly hurt you, there’s no point in hurting yourself for someone who doesn’t flinch to your pain.

You can forgive them and let them go.

I need you to know that some people do not deserve second chances.

You don’t need to burn yourself out for people who won’t even care to see how much you love them.

You don’t need to let them in.

As much as you miss them and feel like the world is going to end if you don’t get them, understand that there’s no point in going back.

If they were going to change, they’d have done it in a heartbeat.

If they were missing you too you’d have known.

Forgive them for breaking your heart when your hands were trying to fix them.

Forgive them for all the pain.

But that doesn’t mean that you go back to them.

You deserve to be loved the way you love.”

[Dolphin14]

I'm so sorry your heart had been broken.

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[Survivor1687 in reply to Dolphin14]

((hugs)) not everything broken is unfixable :') 💜

[Dolphin14 in reply to Survivor1687]

Yes that's true. I know how it feels and we do move on

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