Judgement

[Therapist104]

I look right,

Judgement,

I look left,

Judgement,

I tend to keep to myself,

Because of,

Judgement,

I look behind me,

Judgement,

I look in front of me,

Judgement,

Why can't I,

Live without,

Judgement?

That,

I'll never know.

Oh, look!

Judgement!

[Roxylox]

You describe my life exactly, am constantly judged. You are young though, take heart. There may be better ahead for you.I'm 57, l still live in hope,. Things have gotten a teeny bit better lately.

[Therapist104 in reply to Roxylox]

That's great!

[metalminded]

Judging seems to be what some people do best. However, consider that they themselves may be in the same position though it doesn't look like it. I judge myself a lot harsher than anyone else could. Your opinion of yourself is the only one that really matters anyway. Everything outside is superficial it's what's inside that matters-- I know, easy to say. Believe me I hear it too and for many areas it is true. There are areas of myself that I can't believe any of that.

[Therapist104 in reply to metalminded]

That was so beautiful that I don't know what to say...

[metalminded in reply to Therapist104]

No need to say anything. 😊

[Starrlight]

((((((((Hug)))))))) I’m so done caring. I’m at a breaking point. I’m so sorry you are in pain.

[Therapist104 in reply to Starrlight]

Aww... (((((Hug))))

[Starrlight]

I think sometimes when people try judging us they are really dealing with and projecting their own crap onto others so I don’t give it much power.

[Therapist104 in reply to Starrlight]

True. True. True.

[Daesin]

As difficult as it is …and sounds especially in our current world of everybody look at me,… just forget what other people think about you. Do they feed you? Do they protect you? Do they pay your bills? Honestly they think about you a lot less than you would imagine.

I finally don’t care what anybody else thinks about what I dress like, what I do or what I say. I am the only one that has to live in this skin and has to live with the consequences of my choices. I alone have to answer to myself. I really hope you get to that stage of your life. It took me a while of hearing this sentiment to finally accept and use it. Sadly I wasted decades.

If you’re religious you can think about it this way, in the Christian belief you will face God on your own actions on your own behaviors. It won’t have nothing to do with what Sally Sue down the street thought about you. I believe most other religions have similar concepts of self responsibility.

I hope you’re able to look at yourself and find the beauty in your imperfections & the glory, the uniqueness that is you. Celebrate that. And for anyone who looks at you sideways well they just don’t matter. Keep on going with your chin held high and a smile on your face. Be your true self. Let everybody else sort their own selves out.

[Therapist104 in reply to Daesin]

Very very beautiful. I'll probably treasure what you said for a very long time. Oh God, you're making me cry. Not sad tears.

[metalminded in reply to Daesin]

Well said Daesin!!

[Hb2003]

i do get judged a lot like people giving me weird stares i think i push myself sometimes too hard to please others to not get judged .to get a sort of sense of validation .but i have learned that it will drain your energy .just be your true self and be proud of who you are. it took me years to do that but its a good feeling☺️ .

[Therapist104 in reply to Hb2003]

I'll try

[Daesin]

If you think somebody is staring at you or looking at you in a funny way the best you can do is to put on a genuine smile and look straight at them. Send love with your smile wish them the best. It truly drains any negative from them. Or it sends them into a tizzy. Which will make you laugh and smile even harder.

[Nanii in reply to Daesin]

That's a good one. I haven't used that much consciously, but it sometimes just happened. Sometimes on the street somebody looks at me in a way not able to place me, or whatever kind of not openly outward positive emotion. And then I smile and say "hi!". And then the person more often than not breaks into a smile back. Sometimes also not, but then indeed, it's that person in their own energy not knowing what to do with a person friendly smiling at them, so it's clearly that person and anyway I left something positive behind. Whether that person is able to take that or not.

But now I read this I will try to broaden this little thing consciously. It's a really good one.

[Therapist104]

You know what, I'll try that!